I understand the religious views on abortion I grew up in a very religious family and have heard the concerns and beliefs. I respect them and felt the same until about 7 years ago when I got pregnant with my first child. I had to think really hard and had to decide if this pregnancy would benefit the child or if I would be selfish to bring the child into a abusive family and not be able to take care of it financialy. Ultimately I did the hardest thing I would ever do and left my abusive father haven't talked to him since and I chose to have the child and it was the best decision I ever made. But now I feel I am in the same position I was in 7 years ago. I have since had twins (just a year old) and was supposed to get my tubes tide but there were complications and I lost alot of blood during the c-section. so the doctors had to save my life instead of tying my tubes. well I am pregnant again. I have a loving family now. Me and my husband are doing alright financialy and we give our kids as much attention as we could. This pregnancy feels wrong in so many ways. I feel like a bad person for admitting that but it is the truth. taking care of three kids is hard work and I sometimes feel like I am failing them how could I add a fourth. I am seriously considering abortion and getting my tubes tied but how could I get rid of this child like it is not as much a part of me as my other children? I am confused and honestly going back and fourth. The decision is ultimately mine but I would just like some opinions and maybe some support (even though i probably don't deserve it) Thanks.

I am sorry you are faced with such a hard decision. What is your husbands opinion on this? Have you considered having the baby and giving it up for adoption?

It is a tough decision to make. Talk to hubby and listen to his side on what he thinks.

My husband says he supports any decision I make. Hard as I try to get him to give me a little direction he won't I think it hurts him too much. Adoption could never be a option. I know that once I feel the baby kick it is all over from there and I won't be able to let it go.

Please let me know if im getting to personal but may i ask why do you think the pregnancy is wrong or feels wrong?

It feels wrong because I don't feel I have enough to give my chilren enough attention. I work full time and so does my husband and we do the best we can but it seems to never be enough. I am exhausted all the time and I don't know if I can handle another child. Financially to is another worry. We are okay now but what will happen after. I already pay a horrendous amount for daycare and another child plus all the food and neccesities will put us at a struggle again. All selfish reasons I know but I don't want all or one of my children to feel neglected or not loved.

I know this is a difficult decision and I am not going to sugar coat it. You must balance the death of a fetus against the good of your children and your self.

While I think a fetus has some value, I think it is much less than a child or an adult. (just my philosophy - not something that can be argued rationally). I think you are doing better by having the abortion and concentrating on your children and youself.

I think a lot on moral issues, and for what it is worth, in my book, having the abortion is morally correct. If you do have an abortion, please do not feel guilt in the future. You will have done so with the best of intentions - the care of your children.