okay here is my sad story..im 19 have a wonderful kid(son) 7 months old...i dont go to school..starting in june 08...dont work....looking for a job...then my husband which he is 20 years old came to me and told me im going to expect a baby soon...i was confused at first!!!i was likke what the f***...im like how and when...he told me when i was asleep...im a heavy sleeper so i hardly dont feel anything or hear but this is strange i can only hear when my son is crying at night..i guess ii have it program in my mind or something...i was crying so bad because i was barely going to start where i left of when i ended up pregnant the first time...know i dont want to have it at all?i need advice oplease....
You might not get pregnant! I know it's hard not to worry until you know for sure, but maybe you'll get lucky. I hope for your sake you will.
There's no yes or no answer for you. It's your decision; your morals; etc.
What you CAN decide right now is to have a SERIOUS talk with your husband about your personal boundaries, and his half-baked decisions. You can talk about going on oral birth control pills, if your body will stand them. You have other options, too.
Try not to worry until you know for sure. I wish you the best.
hey 24glenda,
wow i think that your husband has overstepped his boundries a little. i don't think it is right at all for him to make a very important decision like that without discussing it with you. this is your body and he shouldn't be making these types of decisions for you. i agree with little you need to have a serious talk with your hubby. having sex with you while your asleep is just crossing the line..... this is also your decision, your body and i think whatever you choose to do is your right as a woman.
Are you saying that your husband had sex with you while you were asleep?! I don't know what the laws are where you live, but that is rape. Not being able to get consent is the same as saying no. What he did is completely unacceptable. Just because you are married does not mean that he has free access to your body!
I personally don't believe it's right to have an abortion but what your husband did was wrong!!!!!! Him taking advantage of you while you were asleep is just too horrible for words. You deserve better than that. anyways I hope that things work out for the best and I wish you lots of luck. God bless you and honey never let a man treat you like that. married or not it's rape.
Hi there, I am 22, not married and have no children. I cannot relate to you in that way. However, I just want to encourage you to not have the abortion if you end up pregnant. I use to counsel girls and women at a Crisis Preganancy Center and have heard stories of women who are negatively affected by having an abortion. It may not seem bad at first but years later there is emotional pain and consequences.
You are still young and have your whole life ahead of you. This is why you are probably upset. Being a mom and wife while juggling your hopes and dreams is probably overwhelming.
Seems like you may be in an unhealthy relationship with your husband. For him to do such a thing isn't good. You need to take care of yourself...physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
I never had a relationship with my father and I ended up in an unhealthy relationship with a guy during my senior year of high school. It was a very draining relationship.
When I got out of the relationship I began to care for myself again and my future began to get brighter.
There is so much that I want to say and write to encourage you. I actually mentor girls around your age so if you need someone to talk with you are free to get a hold me.
Abortion is a very touchy and passionate subject for many people, including myself.
Whether or not you do it, it is up to you. Don't let anyone tell you stories of what they've heard, because it is a deeply personal choice as to whether it is right or wrong for you, and only you can make the decision for how it will affect your life. A private adoption could be a wonderful gift for another couple, also.
What your husband did, telling you in the way he did... those are red flags to me and upsetting because he didn't respect you or your body, or what you have gone through, which is recent childbirth. It is very hard to be pregnant so soon again when it wasn't planned, and it takes a big toll on your emotions and body, because of all the hormones and your body still has not had time to recover from pregnancy number one. If you have the money to raise two children and a strong marriage, it may end up being a wonderful thing to have the children so close in age.
But the ray of light in all of it is this: you don't know yet if you are pregnant!! Take a test, go to the doctor, find out first before you start thinking of what you need to do. And tell your husband to keep his hands off you while you're asleep. And maybe get some birth control in case he is trying to get you pregnant before you're ready. If you're breastfeeding, you can take the mini-pill. It won't interfere with breast milk, and you won't get pregnant.
No one can tell you what to do. I have not been in your situation. But I have a friend age 27 who has been in the same situation. Not once but twice. Her first son was less than 6month old when she became pregnet again. She decided to abort because she was not at all stable. Her son is now 1 1/2 and she became pregent again. She did the same thing. This time she was a little more stable.. But at a transition stage in her life. Each time I did sit with her while at the clinic because I am her FRIEND no matter what she decides. But she did not want to do it the secnd time nor did I want her to do it. With all that said you are the one who has to live with the decison you make. I know it may be hard because you too are at a transition stage in your life as well. Just have a support system if you do or if your decide to keep the gift and ...JUST REMINDER: GOD never puts more on you than you can bear. You can do it
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