I dont know where to go or who to talk to.
i checked out other forums but everything i read is about girls who are in their teens.

I am 22 years old, almost 23. I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years and lived with him for about the same amount of time.
Last week i found out i am pregnant.
I was so happy, scared, upset and i guess confused u can say.
I am about 6 weeks the dr says.
im showing a little.. i have a little tummy bump i love.

Part of me wants this baby with all my heart. I cry every night and every day. Me and my boyfriend love eachother so much but cant think of a way raising this baby will be healthy.

The house i live in has so much to be done. it was given to us by my boyfriends father and to be able to afford it we need roommates. these roommates because the house is so bad are horrible. do drugs, drink constantly.. without them i cant pay the mortgage. my boyfriend is in and out of the hospital with heart problems. surgery the end of the month. he cant work so its all on me paycheck to paycheck.
yesteday i got fired... yea perfect timing.

money problems. my house. my bfs health. who knows what the meds will do to this baby,

im looking toward an abortion. i have a usound on tuesday.
i dont know if i can live with myself if i do this. . .
i cant write anymore cause im crying too much...

someone please help.

This is a hard one. You have to listen to your heart and think of what would be in your best interest for you and your boyfriend. How does your boyfriend feel about having a baby?? If you don't know, then you should sit down and talk to him. That may help you figure out what you want to do. A baby is alot of time and money. (I don't have one of my own, but know many people the same age as me...almost 23). I am in nursing school and ask them how they do it, and they say "when you have to do something, you just get used to it and do it".

I'd say that you really need to talk to your boyfriend about the whole thing. As for the living situation, that could be changed if needed. Maybe you two could move out of the house and live in an apartment instead which would make things a little cheaper, etc.

This would probably help more if I had a child of my own. I'm sorry if it doesn't. Best of Luck, and if you want to talk then I'll talk

you can also consider putting the baby up for adoption. maybe be on good terms with the family you give the child to, and you can visit it alot, i know its not the same..but at least it would be healthy

or where are your and your boyfriends parents? maybe u could live with them for awhile while you get your feet back on the ground. or even sisters and brothers? family is always there for you..

My husband and I tried to get pg for 2 yrs. It was a hard road to go down, I would not wish it on anyone. You and your bf really have alot to think about, do you ever want children together? If so, I have been told that having an abortion can inhibit you from ever getting pregnant again. I had a friend that it happened to. I think you and bf should go into the Dr's office and discuss the pros and cons of an abortion. Also I know that you said there was a money issue, but believe me money will still be an issue no matter what point in your life that you get pg. I honestly did not belive that old saying that if are waiting to have a baby until you are financally stable then you will never have one. That is so true, you know except for really rich folks!!!! I hope everything works out and I hope your bf gets through all his health trouble fine!!!
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Hello, I read with great concern and empathy your post about your baby.....I have been there, in your situation, ..and now have a grown son that is the only family and help I have in the world..I am so, so very glad I didn't have an abortion. Please don't kill your baby--go onto pro life websites and read about the physical and , more importantly and likely to happen, psychological complications that women almost always have after doing this....no matter what hardships you must endure to bring your child into the world, it will be worth it so as not to be racked with guilt and trauma for the rest of your life after having gone through that horrible procedure. Read as much as you can on the internet about abortion before you make this decision..pray the Our Father and say "In Jesus' name" before the Amen, and He will help you to make the right decision..email me if you want to talk It's janeholt underscore 7 at hotmail...janeholt_7hotmail.com

I was in a similar situation 8 years ago. When I was 19, I found out I was pregnant. My bf and I had been together for two years and had just bought a house. (****** young kids we were ) My health was at risk early on in the pregnancy. I developed early onset toximia, which is very high blood pressure. I was also leaning toward an abortion, but after much thought, changed my mind. My pregnancy was rough, and my son was a month early. I was on bed rest and couldn't work. I had no family to help me out. I also got married at 5 months preggers, and my husband was great through the whole thing. The first 3 years were very hard, and it was a real struggle to get by. We almost lost our house. Now as I look at my son (who just lost his two front teeth and is adorable!) I can say that all the hardship was worth it, and today we have three beautiful children to show for it. I never wanted to be a mom, and now it is my life, and I don't know what I would do without them. Make sure you look into all your options before you make your decision. Call your local Gov. offices and see what kind of financial asstiance you could get and don't be ashamed to take it untill you get on your feet! If you don't have family support, look into a local church or mothers out reach program. You will need a strong faith in whatever decision you make. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your boyfriend. Only you can decide whats right for you. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to email me at afaskingyahoo.com Good luck.