Note to Lana,
It is so wrong to have unprotected sex with someone who is under the impression that you are on protection (birth control). Honestly, what you're doing is just CRAZY. You really need to come clean with him and tell him what you've been doing. He needs to understand the mentality of the person (yourself) that he's dealing with. In simple language, this is a major no-no...something (in my mind) akin to attempting to poison someone in their food. Sorry to be so blunt, but the potential of what you're doing to his life is really sickening. Give him a chance to run while he still can.
Note to everyone else (particularly Lana's boyfriend if he should read this).
This highlights the responsibility of each person having sex being responsible for birth control. When I was of dating age, I dated a girl for several years that was on birth control. I always used a condom as well. I did this out of respect for her in the sense in that I wanted her to know that I was responsible. I also did this out of respect for myself. I made sure that there were no "mistakes" or unwanted pregnancies. If there was a mistake like the condom broke (which it never did), I at least would have known it and then would have been reliant on her taking the pill as a backup method. NOTE TO GUYS: YOU are responsible. Regardless of whether she is on the pill, or whatever she says she is on, YOU are still responsible. If the two of you create a baby, it's YOURS as well as hers. This is the risk you undertake when you have sex. Period.
Please Lana, come clean.
so here's the update. I'm on BC and I have come clean. He understood my insecurities and he accepted me for them, as he did not have to and probably shouldn't have. Thanks for the advice from some, and thanks for making me feel like complete to others. I KNOW what I did was wrong, and I didn't mean for it to go that far, I am completely aware of that. We all make mistakes and I am very sorry for what I did.
I'm out- take care.
Good that you came clean Lana. Everyone makes mistakes. Glad that your end result was positive and that you can now move forward feeling good about yourself.
I know it wasn't easy to tell your b/f, but I do respect that you took the plunge.
Cheers.
Hopefully, your one of the "curious" little creatures that just pops back in and has a last look if anyone else posted:-Originally Posted by Lana1005
Sorry that you felt like a complete...........to others. If we don't make mistakes in life, then we don't learn by them. You came, posed the question, got some answers and did what you KNEW you had to do. Good for you.Lana1005
I'm out- take care.
I'm pleased that he understood and that you were able to speak with him and not just go and get the pills and not confide, as that is a great foundation of a relationship.
ANON:-- Re: My oops reply, lol... Seeing as i was picked up on it privately, i had to ensure that damd understood that whilst i am sure in a past life you would be "dreamy", that i was not one of our many female fans on hereas i am more like that Woman in the nightclub you wrote about, you know, the one that tried to kiss you and was way too old haha.
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
If you want to have a child with him (That last part is important) I would talk to the BF and ask him about making your relationship one that could support that. Marriage hopefully... *I'm old fashioned...
He might surprise you and tell you he is ready and willing. I know saying you want to have kids can kill a romance if done at the wrong time but... You can't move forward if you don't make some noise once in a while. BTW I'm not saying to make demands of him or anything. If you think he is the one don't wait too long to tell him. And the BC shots (depo right?) can (maybe) really be murder if done for a long time. It messes up hormones and in the case of my friend really goofed her up.
I'll just say that what everyone says about talking to your doctor is right. They are sworn to secrecy and act professional about this. If you think you need a fertility test? Why not. Check your insurance however. Fertility stuff is not always covered.
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