so this might sound really bad...
I'm a healthy, pretty active 27 year old woman and I have always felt that I was going to be unable to have children. My boyfriend of 2 years thinks I am on the shot (birth control) but I haven't been the entire time. He always ejaculates inside of me, but I have never gotten pregnant. Not that I want to have children right now, definately after we are married- I just don't understand how to bring this up to my doctor next month when I have my annual. Is it uncommon for unmarried women to ask for infertility tests? I just don't know what to do and I definately don't want to find out after it's too late. I just don't know what to do- any suggestions? Thanks so much in advance.
You need to come clean with your boyfriend. You are putting him in a potentially bad situation and he is blindly trusting you. That's not right. All kinds of people think they can't have kids and after years of trying *poof*...baby.
My parents best friends tried for years and finally adopted and 6 months later she was pregnant.
Definatley tell him the truth or get back on the shot. Sourpuss is right, you are putting him and yourself in a bad situation. I expect you want honesty from him you need to give it to him in return.
As for the, doctor who cares? You don't need to justify your wanting to know to him/her.
I agree with the above two posters.
I know of three couples, who have tried for 4 - 5 years and nothing. Two have since had a baby and the third, is now pregnant. Happy days.
Don't play Russian Roulette and don't bring mis-trust into a relationship that you are serious about.
And, as for the Doctor, i agree with Anon, he/she is simply a part of your life course, not a friend, so say what ever you want... Plus they are bound to code of ethic, so nothing you say goes past your lips to theirs.
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
Oh dear me......
Sorry to the OP, i was thinking about Anon's meeting with this mysterious woman whom reminded me so much of someone, that i accidentally posted his name instead of damd, as i was in awe of their meet. SORRY Damd, we all know Anon and you are either not available, too young for me, or what ever, so just a slip thing....
LOL
D a m n
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
Everyone is very right, and I am ashamed I couldn't tell the truth from the beginning out of my own insecurities. I am going to the doctor next month so I plan on getting back on BC regardless and will not compromise putting him in a bad spot. It's really hard- he is a great and wonderful man, but the thought can't escape my mind that maybe he would want to be with someone who is able to bear him children. Thanks for your advice everyone.
Lana, truly read the very short replies to date.Originally Posted by Lana1005
Just because you haven't doesn't mean you won't, i can't stress enough to you that all posters know of people that actually try and after 3 - 5 years, it happens.
Even if you have ever been told, it can't happen as two of my friends for-instance were told, so, it CAN...
As IT DID...
Don't think that way, but until both of you are ready, then go off everything and wait, for the unexpected to happen
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
You definately need to get back on BC and/or tell him. I wouldn't break up with someone for thinking they might not be able to have a kid, but I would for them lying to me about being on BC....
And I'm sure you can have kids, don't worry about it.
Chandler? What are you on about? Hahah. But yeah, the mystery woman and met was pretty awesome...
Did she shave her legs, or was she nat-ur-al?
Hi Lana
have you gotten checked yet cause there has to be a reason why you have not gotten pregnant i understand your not ready for a baby but u should look at the bigger picture your health im 27 i want kids and i have what they call unexplained infertility in other words they dont know whats wrong and for years i have been told the stories about the ladies that have tried for years and then when they stopped trying they got pregnant thats great for them but dont let that stop you from getting your self tested because if you just sit back and wait it might be to late when you are ready for kids
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