wanna share!!..

**virgo1981** · 08-13-2008 03:47 AM

Hello every one,
Now this is what I need to share coz, i am really feeling guilty !!
It was my 13w ultrasound, doc asked us if we wanted to know the sex of the baby, i was a lil hesitant but then i said yes...and he said it is a girl!!! I dont know y but a lil tear came in to my eyes....My mothers face was in front of me. We are sisters with no brother and my mother always wanted that we all have one each. Altho this is my first pregnancy but I still wanted first baby to be a boy ...atleast for my parents happiness.

My husband is happy and is already thinking of names clothes room decos and all. I was crying the whole day...WHYYYYYYY...

I should not do that. this is my daughter and I my self being a girl should not do this ...!!!I still hope that the ultrasound is not correct and it is a boy.
I called my mom and told her that it is pink, she was quite for some time and then said ..oh thats great..and said I know u r fooling me and will say its blue after few weeks. I told her that no am saying the truth...but I know she still hopes that this is a boy. In all this I dont hws my child feeling I never wanted to welcome my child with tears..I wanted to be happy. I think I made a mistake by asking the gender...!!

**damd** · 08-13-2008 04:07 AM

Hello. I am the oldest of four boys. Three years ago when my wife and I became pregnant I wanted a son. I think it was for the normal traditional reasons of lineage and father wanting a son ect... but one reason was the fact I don't know if I can relate to having a daughter, I grew up with three brothers. Well when my first borne came it was a girl. I was disappointed for maybe a half second. She is two and a half now, and she is the pride and joy of my life.

You feel disappointed, sure there is a lot of pressure on you to have a boy. But I really don't think it's going to matter when you first hold her, feed her, sooth her, listen to her first giggle, and hear her call you mommy. You really wanted a son. That will go away when you see that what you really want is a normal healthy baby.

So don't worry, those feelings won't even enter your mind when you gaze at her face for the first time.

Congratulations.

**virgo1981** · 08-13-2008 04:14 AM

Thankyou very much !!
I also feel the same taht once she is there every thing will be fine..! But I really feel bad about the initial feeling I had..!

**damd** · 08-13-2008 04:29 AM

Originally Posted by virgo1981

...But I really feel bad about the initial feeling I had..!

Don't. You had an expectation of a sex that you wanted. It wasn't the baby's fault or your fault that it did not turn out to be a boy. From what it sounds like it's not even your fault for wanting a boy in the first place. I think everyone has a preferance to what sex their child is going to be. But I seriously doubt that it is going to affect your love for her.

Rest easy, it's natural. You will be ok. Like I said when you see her, it won't matter.

And besides it's only 13 weeks, they say it's a girl if they can't find signs that it's a boy. Who knows, you still might be carrying a boy. But if not, I'm sure that you will love her the same.

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