Thread: Completely scared of giving birth one day.

GlossyT...again a comment from a guy.

Don't allow yourself to become so flipped out over pain in childbirth. Undoubtedly it's bad (I don't know and never will), BUT just think about it like this. If you look around you, EVERY SINGLE HUMAN BEING represents a mother who gave birth. Within a few weeks of giving birth, the pain endured is all but forgotten, and the joy of having a new baby is all you are concerned about.

Now, if EVERY SINGLE HUMAN BEING was brought into the world this way, what would give you the idea that YOU (along with excellent doctors, medicine, etc) couldn't handle it?

Does it hurt? HECK YES! Is it WORTH IT? You bet. If and when you do get pregnant, your body will prepare itself for what has to happen. Don't sweat this kind of stuff in advance or it will just get bigger and bigger to you. Remember, it is what it is. You worrying about it years before you have a baby isn't going to change a thing.

Cheers.

Funny thing about childbirth, it is some of the worst pain most of us women will endure (hopefully) but you know what, you forget it! That is the amazing part. After that little one comes and you see him/her for the first time, the pain is gone and your heart is filled with the most unbelieable joy ever.

Well actually you forget it until the next time, but I swear the same feeling comes back and the pain is gone.

Another excellent point Reighneydaze (about the 2nd childbirth).

GlossyT:
If it was THAT bad, there'd be a lot of families out there with no children or only 1 child. Think about it this way, if the pain is that bad and if people have more than one child, then they've either got to be crazy or it's totally WORTH IT!

well lets be honest about this.... not everone has a perfect birth. Some people are in labor for 10,15 even 20 hours but not everyone. i just had my first child in june and my labor lasted a total of 6 hours. i was in pain for 1 hour i was only hurting when i was 5 1/2 cm dialated and they broke my water but that was also because i didnt have and meds at that time. after about an hour of taking the pain i opted for an epidural. it didnt really hurt and i didnt look at the needle. it took a few mins to take affect and then i went to sleep for like and hour and they told me it was time to push.i had him and he was the most beautiful thing i had ever seen.a little tip that might help you with shorting the time of your labor is exersise during preganacy. i walked around the block everyday until the day before i had him and now he's almost 3 months and im back to my original size. just remember everyone is diffrent. and hae fun with your prenancy

Hi I was also very scared of labour. But really wanted children!

When i was in my 30s I fell pregnant. Planned pregnancy. I was really scared!! But I read some good things about the natal hypnobirthing cds and hypnobirthing book. I started to read the book and listen to the cds and it helped me to overcome the fear of childbirth.

At 32weeks I opted for a homebirth with limited pain relief. It was a wonderful experience.

I was in labour for 16hours, but during the first lot of contractions I managed to stay calm, focussed and positive. I felt in control! I called the midwife, who thought I wasn't in labour, as I was far too calm!

When I persuaded the midwife to call to house she was surprised that I was 6cm dilated! I started to use Gas & Air and a Maternity Tens Machine when I was 8cm dilated. This took the edge of things.

When you do fall preg just try to stay calm, relax and focussed. Let your body work for you, not against you! The more relaxed you are, the better your body will perform during the birthing process!

I can also say that when I had a kidney infection, this was definately worse than labour!!

Goodluck, just don't listen to other people horror stories, it'll be your pregnancy and we are all different, so remember stay calm.

Like many others have said every labour is different.
I got away lucky my first time around. I was only in labour for 7 hours. My water broke and I wasn't having contractions I could feel for almost 2 hours. When I could start feeling them it wasn't nearly as bad as I had anticipated, more like intense period cramps. I was dialated 9 1/2 centimeters when I opted for the epidural, which I only did because I was scared of feeling ripping when pushing. But all I felt after the epidural was pressure. I'm due to have a boy in January and am really considering going completely natural this time, provided there are no complications. I also think staying active is a big help, both for childbirth as well as post pregnancy. It is true what they say as soon as the baby's born you forget any pain you felt.

OK, now i know i might be upsetting some but, my labor and delivery were not that bad. I had four children and no epidurals. All of my labors were under nine hours and easy. I will tell you one thing that you probably wont hear anywhere else. It can feel good to push out a baby. Yes, that is what i said. Not all women feel that way but i do. For me it was kind of like the feeling of a really intense orgasm. The best thing you can do is educate yourself on all kinds of options for child birth. The absolute worst position to give birth--on your back with your feet in stirups. I had midwives for all my pregnancies. Labor and delivery don't have to be . My last baby was delivered in a bath tub. I only pushed twice. Educate yourself!!!