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About LinkBacksCONGRATS on being a supportive father! I haven't been in your situation (or your daughter's) but I do know there is a distinct shortage of supportive parents in this country, so for being one you deserve a pat on the back.
Teen pregnancy help
Ok ladies need some advice,my daughter is 18 and pregnate.If you havent figured it out yet I am a man and a single parent. So im looking for some advice on what to expect with her emotionaly as well as outher areas of pregnancy. Weve been to the doctor and she has her vitamins and has had one ultra sound.
Guess Im looking for info on what to expect from her emotionally and physically as the pregnancy progreses.
CONGRATS on being a supportive father! I haven't been in your situation (or your daughter's) but I do know there is a distinct shortage of supportive parents in this country, so for being one you deserve a pat on the back.
Thanks they are pretty much my life and I am getting a lil excited about having another little one around to do stuff with (once i adjusted to it). Im so not cool to them anymore.
Hello Lakerat,
I just wanted to say Congratulations on being a dad again... Well that's how you are going to act let's face it...
Again, wrong one to give you advice, but I know that people will...
You can expect though, mood swings ( remember that from her Mother?), Morning sickness I am sure, can't think of many women that don't have the luxury of saying that they fortunately didn't go through that.
Cravings, are you ready to get in your car and go and get her pickles or ice-cream or both whilst she eats them at the same time and you feel discusted at the combination? haha.
I am assuming she is living with you as you say "single parent"...
Try to get her to walk and see someone to do light exercises from a professional, women when they get pregnant also think OMG I'm getting fat instead of feeling the beauty.*SOMETIMES*
I hope you can go with her also to some Ultra Sounds that would be special to both of you.
I think it would be a tad stressful too for her, so I guess you have 7 or so months of smiling lots and lots. Time to drink more beer?
Share as much as you can, feel her tummy with her, share it's a special time for you both, very special.
As well as for other's off course but as you have raised her single handedly it's special....
Maybe buy her a real nice necklace to wear with her "pregnant clothes" so she still feels cute and pretty, from Dad to Daughter....
I am sure there's heaps of other things, I'm just thinking as a Woman rather than a Mum, I was there for the birth of my first Nephew wow, is all I can say.
I wasn't meant to be there but I didn't know?
20 minutes old, getting his first bath of gunk off of him, dark haired, funny how they turn out bloody blonde later?
Go figure.
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
Yes i remember the mood swings, 3am driveing to wally world for rootbeer, sherbert and alot of odd stuff. I did learn to hide the stuff after a while (if i had it she didnt want it) so I could cut down on some of the trips. And lots and lots of pillows. Im looking forward to the belly rubs, something about rubbing a pregnate womans belly and knowing theres a life inside
is kinda cool.
Am still looking for a lil input ladies, I may not understand fully what you go thru but all insight will be greatly appreciated
Thanks
Give her LOTS and LOTS of support!
That is something I wish I'd had. I got pregnant when I was 16. Wow, I wonder what my experience would have been like if my parents were as supportive as you. My parents, well my mother specifically was not supportive at all.
When she found out her first words were "Oh what are we going to do", then she cried for days. I remember and will never forget something she said to me - "I can't wait to have a grandchild that I don't have to be ashamed of".
Funny, how things change, she thinks my son who is now 24 hung the moon.
Fallen sorry to hear that about your parents.Hope you have a better relationship with them now. We cant change the past all we can hope to do is try not to make the same mistakes over and over (Im a slow learner sometimes)
Weve had our diffrences the last couple of years(16 n up) she turned 18 and moved out while still in school(sr) (and new everything) I had her on the pill while she was here. but
she quit takeing them when she moved out (ohh to be young and invincable)
She tends to learn everything the hard way. Ive learned I cant give her advice unless she wants it. sometimes watching them learn on their own is a hard thing to do. But i guess its a part of life. All we can do is be there for them when they need a helping hand.
I am glad she is back with me,its nice to have them both back in the house, except for the drama.
Does she have a boyfriend? Just curious if the father of the baby is in the picture.
I admire your parenting and supportiveness. Good for you for being such a great dad.
Just continue being supportive. Make sure she's eating healthy and staying active. Seems everyone reads that What to Expect When You're Expecting book, so that may be helpful. But be careful not to bog yourselves down with too much reading, I think one book is fine. Any more than that and new mothers seem to become terrified so some reason.
good luck!
Yes sorta... he didnt come around much when she was first got pregnate.Was told he said some pretty hatefull things to her . Not for sure on that tho as she tends to blow things out of perportion sometimes. And likes to add to things to get sympathy. (acts tough but is a lil insecure). but he has been around more lately. (alot more grocery shopping) I dont let him stay the night but he is welcome during the day.(she still stays there some)
And i have talked to her about not getting married because shes pregnate.(I made that mistake) But she tends to do the opposit of everything.
she has been reading some books they seem to help but some of the stuff seems extreem.(but I am a man)
What to expect? That's difficult to answer as every woman's pregnancy is different just as every woman's experience of motherhood is different, and every child is different etc.. I can't remember exactly how I felt during pregnancy although I know I was happy happy happy and couldn't wait to bond with my baby! Fortunately I was in a good relationship but didn't have any family support which was quite upsetting, so just remember that being there for her as you are now, is a big help in itself if the father is not around.
Your daughter will probably be feeling every emotion under the sun including FEAR and EXCITEMENT so all I would suggest is that you're there to support her as much as possible.
I'm sure she will appreciate you showing your excitement about her bringing a baby into the world, into your family.
At times she may get scared by certain pains caused by the uterus expanding, and much later in pregnancy she may produce a small amount of jelly like substance from her vagina which can be quite scary but is nothing to worry about and simply means that the uterus is preparing to make way for the baby. You can reassure her that this doesn't mean the baby is in trouble or on its' way immediately. There may also be the worry of developing postnatal depression and not bonding with the baby- if any of these concerns arise, just be there with support and encouragement, advising that you will get through it all together, whatever happens.
Maybe she will be worring about who will be with her when her waters break or during labour so maybe you could discuss this together.
If you google pregnancyquestionsandanswers, you may gain enough info to prepare you for any concerns your daughter may have.
Other than this all I can say is good luck and well done for being such a great dad
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