Thread: Open Relationships

Hey Sands,

Your frame must be pretty strong, if i was in your shoes it would just eat me up, but i am not a strong person X-P

I've been in open relationships but i was never really attached or in love with them, otherwise of course i would make it exclusive.

As long as you don't believe this will destroy your marrage or feelings for her, then i suppose it's "all right" but yeah this could easily turn sour and ruin a 16 year marriage

-Stylerock

I am not in an open relationship, so my comments may not be worth much. That said, while I have no moral objections, I think it is risky. It could be especially problematic if all of the work time (chores around the house, etc) is spent with the spouse, and then only fun time with the other lover. It would be easy to start thinking of the other lover as "more fun" - throw in the spice of sex, and you have a dangerous combination.

Again - no moral objections, I wish any couple that tries this the very best of luck - I wish more people were "wired" in a way where this sort of thing worked well, but I think it is risky.

I have some great information on polyamory if you are interested. Robert Heinlein is probably not the best to be reading for this situation. His books are science fiction and even tho many poly people relate to his characters, real life poly is more often than not no where near what Lazurus Long lives through. Google polyamory. Love without limits. Ethical sluts.