Over before it started - wtf?

**commonsense** · 10-26-2008, 06:42 PM

To the men on board - how embaressed would you be if you "finished" during sex in 5 minutes the first time you slept with a woman? You've slept with other women in the past.

To the ladies on board - what do you say to a guy that did that?

**WildChild** · 10-26-2008, 11:34 PM

First times can be a little awkward, you haven't got each other's rhythm yet. There is a degree of nervousness too. It depends on how long you've known each other and a lot factors. But this wouldn't be a deal breaker provided there was potential in the foreplay and the chemistry was there. Personally, I'd leave it go and see what happens next time. We all have our off days.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 10-27-2008, 03:32 AM

I have to say that "what if" she was someone whom he really wanted to be with?

Found it hard to control himself.

Can you really judge a man on one sexual encounter?

Can you really make that judgement and say OMG is that all, well no way not going there...

Is it not the chemistry and in addition what he is, that makes a couple share intimacy?

I would say give the guy ago she already slept with him, a couple more times might make her see if it is always going to be a 5 minute thing and not what she is after, or whether he is everything else in other departments and that she can participate in prolonging etc, etc, etc.

It's not all about sex, unless that is the priority..

And you don't make a decision on being with a man, based on sexual explorations on one go..

That's my Opinion.

Let's reverse it.

He is superb... 30 minutes plus, penetration, (3 times) over 4 hours... And, an excellent lover knows foreplay at the back of his hand, but, he doesn't see her, take her out, feed her emotional needs, does she stay for sex alone?

I think if she wants a "relationship" then forget the 5 and see what happens.

If she is for a sexual on-going "affair" that is between two people only, and exclusive then she needs to try one more time, and then move on...if simular.

Pends on what she is after at that time.

CW

**anonymouswhitefemale** · 10-27-2008, 06:52 AM

Well, it wouldn't happen with me.

I'm on the other side of the coin, where the first time I might not even come at all... Which in a way I'd find more embaressing haha.

On a separate note, commensense you seem very critical and judgemental of the men between your legs. I hope that you've got mad skills too, otherwise you'd be a hypocrite

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st_simon · 10-27-2008, 10:55 AM

from a lady's perspective...to me anyways...it's actually flattering! only if the dude's had sex before. this happened to me with my man, and he would say things like whoops and sorry and that he couldn't help it. it felt good! sure it sucked to not get mine for a while, but i felt like he was so turned on by me that he just couldn't control it. and i was his 8th, so it's not the experience. it wasn't long at all before he had more of a grip on things and was able to...you know...'my turn'

**sTyLeRock** · 10-29-2008, 01:35 AM

i am a bit wierd,

If i am not wearing a condom i generally cum pretty fast like 10-15 minutes, but if i wear a condom i usually take around 30mins - 1 hour,

However i do go more then once.

There was one time where i was just in a wierd mood and i cum like within 5 minutes, i was like.. ahh sorry. U SHOULDN'T OF ED ME SO HARD and then went down on her for half an hour as her punishment :P

-Daniel

**commonsense** · 10-31-2008, 04:45 PM

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On a separate note, commensense you seem very critical and judgemental of the men between your legs. I hope that you've got mad skills too, otherwise you'd be a hypocrite

.[/quote]

I have mad skills.

**Livelaughlove** · 10-31-2008, 05:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by commonsense

To the men on board - how embaressed would you be if you "finished" during sex in 5 minutes the first time you slept with a woman? You've slept with other women in the past.

Embaressment come from a week state of mind. Meaning you have somthing to prove.

I would probably say something ot the effect of "SEE... Look what you made me do!"

It wouldn't bother me or her because she will get hers..

The problem is with the men that say... "Im soo sorry" "this never happens" blah blah blah It just shows weakness and may be more aggrivating then the actual issue.

Why on earth would a women want to sleep with a beta male?

**commonsense** · 11-01-2008, 12:14 AM

but i felt like he was so turned on by me that he just couldn't control it. and i was his 8th, so it's not the experience. it wasn't long at all before he had more of a grip on things and was able to...you know...'my
turn'[/quote]

I didn't put this post on to put down men. I really like men and all they bring to the plate.

With that said, he said that I got him "so worked" up that it just happended. I wouldn't throw in the towel on a guy for that. I just haven't experienced anything like that since the younger years. Most guys learn how to control themselves after they are a certain age. I didn't say anything, because I didn't know what to say. We're still together.

N01 · 11-01-2008, 06:43 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by commonsense

To the men on board - how embaressed would you be if you "finished" during sex in 5 minutes the first time you slept with a woman? You've slept with other women in the past.

To the ladies on board - what do you say to a guy that did that?

that's why I generally start with giving 15 minutes of oral first. it really doesnt matter what happens after that, so my 5-10 minutes becomes a non-issue.

10-26-2008, 06:42 PM	#1
commonsense Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 256	Over before it started - wtf? To the men on board - how embaressed would you be if you "finished" during sex in 5 minutes the first time you slept with a woman? You've slept with other women in the past. To the ladies on board - what do you say to a guy that did that?

10-27-2008, 03:32 AM	#3
CHANDLERS WISH WH Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Australia Posts: 9,910 Blog Entries: 7	I have to say that "what if" she was someone whom he really wanted to be with? Found it hard to control himself. Can you really judge a man on one sexual encounter? Can you really make that judgement and say OMG is that all, well no way not going there... Is it not the chemistry and in addition what he is, that makes a couple share intimacy? I would say give the guy ago she already slept with him, a couple more times might make her see if it is always going to be a 5 minute thing and not what she is after, or whether he is everything else in other departments and that she can participate in prolonging etc, etc, etc. It's not all about sex, unless that is the priority.. And you don't make a decision on being with a man, based on sexual explorations on one go.. That's my Opinion. Let's reverse it. He is superb... 30 minutes plus, penetration, (3 times) over 4 hours... And, an excellent lover knows foreplay at the back of his hand, but, he doesn't see her, take her out, feed her emotional needs, does she stay for sex alone? I think if she wants a "relationship" then forget the 5 and see what happens. If she is for a sexual on-going "affair" that is between two people only, and exclusive then she needs to try one more time, and then move on...if simular. Pends on what she is after at that time. CW __________________ Do we not realise that in order to find a soul It doesn't happen over night if truth were to be told Like everything in life that's hard to achieve you must believe! Register! \| Rules/FAQ \| Contact Mod

10-29-2008, 01:35 AM	#6
sTyLeRock Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 128	hmmm i am a bit wierd, If i am not wearing a condom i generally cum pretty fast like 10-15 minutes, but if i wear a condom i usually take around 30mins - 1 hour, However i do go more then once. There was one time where i was just in a wierd mood and i cum like within 5 minutes, i was like.. ahh sorry. U SHOULDN'T OF ED ME SO HARD and then went down on her for half an hour as her punishment :P -Daniel

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10-26-2008, 11:34 PM	#2
WildChild Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 6,223 Blog Entries: 5	First times can be a little awkward, you haven't got each other's rhythm yet. There is a degree of nervousness too. It depends on how long you've known each other and a lot factors. But this wouldn't be a deal breaker provided there was potential in the foreplay and the chemistry was there. Personally, I'd leave it go and see what happens next time. We all have our off days.

10-27-2008, 06:52 AM	#4
anonymouswhitefemale May 2008 "Poster of the Month" Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 1,419 Blog Entries: 2	Well, it wouldn't happen with me. I'm on the other side of the coin, where the first time I might not even come at all... Which in a way I'd find more embaressing haha. On a separate note, commensense you seem very critical and judgemental of the men between your legs. I hope that you've got mad skills too, otherwise you'd be a hypocrite .

10-27-2008, 10:55 AM	#5
st_simon Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: CA Posts: 11	from a lady's perspective...to me anyways...it's actually flattering! only if the dude's had sex before. this happened to me with my man, and he would say things like whoops and sorry and that he couldn't help it. it felt good! sure it sucked to not get mine for a while, but i felt like he was so turned on by me that he just couldn't control it. and i was his 8th, so it's not the experience. it wasn't long at all before he had more of a grip on things and was able to...you know...'my turn'

10-31-2008, 04:45 PM	#7
commonsense Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 256	[ On a separate note, commensense you seem very critical and judgemental of the men between your legs. I hope that you've got mad skills too, otherwise you'd be a hypocrite .[/quote] I have mad skills.

11-01-2008, 12:14 AM	#9
commonsense Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 256	but i felt like he was so turned on by me that he just couldn't control it. and i was his 8th, so it's not the experience. it wasn't long at all before he had more of a grip on things and was able to...you know...'my turn'[/quote] I didn't put this post on to put down men. I really like men and all they bring to the plate. With that said, he said that I got him "so worked" up that it just happended. I wouldn't throw in the towel on a guy for that. I just haven't experienced anything like that since the younger years. Most guys learn how to control themselves after they are a certain age. I didn't say anything, because I didn't know what to say. We're still together.