Thread: I think I am being way too insecure? i need a 2nd opinion

Hey Ladies,

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years. I think i have an insecurity issue even though he has never done anything to hurt me. When we broke up for 3 months, he had sex with another woman and it bothered me but at the same time, I understand it was when we werent together & its none of my business. He told me that when we were together before the break up that one time i had went to his work & he introduced me but luckily i dont remember her. Anyways, it tends to bother me from time to time because he wasnt a virgin when he met me, he had sex with a girl when he was 17 and then it has been me for 6 years excluding the woman from his work that he had sex with when him and I had broke up for 3 months. Anyways, why the do i still care about him having a 1 night stand with her? I think it bothers me because I have only had sex with him. I have cheated on him a couple times over 6 years which he knows about, I kissed 2 guys....i know i have dealt with the regret but im thankful him and I are together again after the 3 month break up. However, its retarded but i get all these insecurities sometimes & I want to stop them...

This morning him and I went out for breakfast and he wore his gym pants because he was going to work out after. There was a stain on the thigh of his pants, it didnt look like cum but i said where is that from? did you get that on yourself and he said no and then i was like....was it my cum? and he goes i dont know. I got mad because he knew that it wasnt his but then said i dont know if its yours. He then proceeded to me tell me that he doesnt think its his but he doesnt in know. It didnt look that much like cum, but i made a huge ordeal of it.....

I am in a good relationship but its completely unhealthy for me to be insecure. What can I do to stop it? I tried doing therapy alittle but it doesnt work. I know naturally some people are just jealous or insecure of themselves. What is my case?? I love him and I don't want to make him distant and for it to seem i dont trust him. I do its just sometimes I act childish about little things.