Thread: Boyfriend... meth.. stay or leave?

Give him one chance.
Set up an appointment for a pee test, have him go and get tested.
Tell him that if he tests positive, you're gone like yesterday's news.
He won't be honest, but it's not him.... it's the drug.
He will steal from you, but it's not him... it's the drug.
Soon everything will revolve around the next fix, the next high....
He needs help. Offer it to him.
Don't let yourself become someone he uses.

I talked to him again about it because he slipped up major.. so bad he was doing it in front of me... but the next day he threw away his pipe and showed me.. he admitted to having a problem... and he agreed to rehab... he said when he gets paid all he thinks about is the drug... he is going to give me his paychecks and I'm going hold onto it for him...


I know its like being his mommy but I don't want to give up on him and him get killed or locked up...

This is good Christina but make sure you stick to your guns and that he sticks to his otherwise he's just stalling!

Originally Posted by In-Need

This is good Christina but make sure you stick to your guns and that he sticks to his otherwise he's just stalling!

Yeah thanks... Last time I was so ready to send him to jail.. I called a close officer of mine and everything but as I was telling him about the situation his sister was begging me not to only because of her nephew(his son)

I'm glad he can at least admit to himself and to you that he has a problem, although don't get me wrong, you are still facing an uphill battle. Hopefully he can get into some form of rehab where they can give him the tools he will need to overcome his cravings.

Jail is not a good thing and it would jeopardize the custody of his son, but if it helps him wake up and quit and / or forces him to go to rehab, it would be a good thing in the long run. If he doesn't stop using, he will end up in jail anyway.

Originally Posted by sourpuss

Once you don't follow through, all credibility is lost and you become a doormat.

Very well put, Example.........When I was in this shape many yrs. ago my Father tho't was doing me a favor by bailing me out of jail..(that was his way of loving me) but once he decided he wasn't going to bail me out anymore, I had to lay in the bed I had made. When I got out, that's when I cleaned up.

And it's goes the same for kids, if one tells them to do something or else and they don't, and one don't do what one says, then they pick up you are bluffing.....Hence, Doormat!!

Sunday night ( Jan 18,2009) there was a special on A&E dedicated to Meth... its become so wide spread and such a horrible drug cause it is sucha dirty high with dirty ingredients.

I agree with setting a limit as to how much you will invest into this relationship. Go on the A&E website you can probably watch the special intervention. It may give you some insight on helping yourself in this situation , your BF and his son.

if he is playing so dangerously with his own life how is protecting yours or his sons? He needs help and i hope he decides to get it. It doesn't matter how much you want it ... he has to want it. You can report this childs case and you can take protective custody of this child or another member of this mans family.

My heart goes out to you and his son...