Thread: I know my friends husband is cheating

If your husband was having an affair would you want to know about it or not? And would you expect your friend to tell you if she knew? To me this is a no brainer, but i would want to gather more intelligence to be sure of myself.

But when the truth comes out there should be some decent evidence so he can't deny it.

When people cheat they are gambling with a lot. Including the respect from their children and friends, and if they loose it they deserved to. Cheating is very dishonourable in my book, it shows a complete lack of integrity and trustworthiness. For him to do this there is obviously a problem with their relationship, and instead of working through it with his wife and show some maturity, honesty and responsibility he cheats on her. What a husband.

That's a tough situation indeed. You have to be so careful, because alot of times untruths get told. While it may very likely be the truth, until you see something with your own eyes that condemns him, you really have no proof, and you really don't KNOW. And especially with there being kids involved, you musn't tell something unless you know it. There's a good chance that even if someone tells her she won't believe it, he'll make up some cover up story, and she'll turn her back on whoever told her such a "lie".

It's a tough call. Maybe you could just tell her you heard a rumor? Don't necessarily act like you believe it, or accuse him....... just tell her it's something that's "going around" . Gosh...I don't know....that's tough. Hopefully someone else will have experienced this and be able to give you some advice.

i dont know i dont think she will believe it (even if she does, if you know what i mean) i have seen a very similar situation and the wife totally does not want to know. very often i think they do suspect something but dont want to deal with it. hope everything works out ok - whatever you decide.

I wouldn't tell. Relationships are very complicated. Unless you have seen him having sex with your own eyes, you really don't know for sure what is going on. He may have an innocent friend (despite appearances). If someone told you, maybe they were mistaken or lying. Or - maybe she knows and for whatever reason doesn't mind, as long as it doesn't become public knowledge.

I am always happy to listen if someone wants to tell me about their relationship problems, but I don't think I would ever tell one partner about the actions of the other.

If you do decide to tell her, you have to prepare yourself for the chance that she may not believe it - many people would rather lose a friend than have to face the truth that their spouse has been unfaithful. She may even know it already, Lots of women *do* know in the back of their mind but choose to ignore it.

If you don't tell her, and she finds out later though someone else or on her own it would hurt her to know you knew it all along and let her go on living and loving this man and potentially putting her health at risk if he is a shady character out their doing it without protection.

I agree that you should be neutral if you go on and tell her don't come out acting like you know it to be fact (even if you do) let her come to her own conclusions on any info presented.

Make sure that it is true before coming to her with this, why put doubt in her head and stress her out over rumors or gossip. If you know specific details that could lead her to figuring it out on her own even better.