Thread: I need help getting past this...

When I was 17 I had a friend who was much older than me, at the time he was 34 and married. I worked with him at the job I had at a grocery store.
We talked allot and had so many things in common, months went by and we talked everyday. One day we were talking and he hands me a letter, it was a long four page letter that basically told me that he was in love with me.
I knew it was wrong and that I should have stopped being his friend then but I didn't I just burned the letter and pretended like I never saw it.
I am still friends with this person today but I don't know why because I know what he did was wrong and looking back on it he said some pretty weird things that freaked me out but at the time I felt like he was the only friend I had and sometimes I still do.

One time we went to the tattoo parlor because he wanted to get an tribal armband tattooed around his arm. I recommended the tattoo place because he asked me to do so. I thought he already had the tattoo he wanted picked out but he didn't so he asked me which one I liked best, I thought it was weird that he didn't ask his wife to help him pick out his tattoo but I picked one for him anyway. Now I know every time he looks at that tattoo he thinks of me and that kinda freaks me out.

I thought this friendship was so great until he gave me that letter after which I felt betrayed and I felt like I had lost my innocence. I will never forget what he did to me, I have never told him how much he hurt me that day.

I don't know why I still talk to him or how to tell him how I really feel now. After he showed me the letter I kept on being his friend because I charished the friendship and I did want the friendship part to end. I just want to know how I am honestly suppost to get completly past this I still feel hurt and angry about what he did. how do I get past this???

I've read a little of your past threads and understand that you are still married, correct?

In my own opinion, it's sort of a mysterious sort of fantasy that's with this guy. You said yourself you new the letter was a little weird.

I would think you're going to have to let it go, completely. Doesn't appear you had any sort of real relationship with him, so cut the ties!

I use to date women much older than me, and looking back I can see where this could have had an affect on me also. There's something about that age difference at the age you were that has a impression on us that's hard to forget or get past.

Meditate on your man, right at the moment you find yourself thinking about this other guy. "Thot's resisted tempts no longer" the old saying goes! It's hard, I don't deny but this is the victory!