Thread: am i a mistress???

Wow, this is a different side of it all.

Well, you are if you are sleeping with him and he is still married.

But throw caution to the wind, don't get pregnant until he walks from his wife and even lives in another unit somewhere... if he has to remain for the time being for his job.

The last thing you want to do is have a baby and he never leaves his wife, and his way of doing it, really is wrong morally don't you think? Get pregnant, oh well that's the reason why I have to leave you dear, I owe it to my new born child to be there.

So, having said all of that, are you sure he did tell her in the first place and was kicked out?

And, if so, she obviously took him back, imagine the heartache for her at that time, and if he leaves again.. But, worse, imagine the heartache if you had a baby that was her husbands and was conceived at the time, she was still married to him, trying to reconsile?

How would you feel?

If he seriously loves you, he will tell her it's over and move out, not cheat on her anymore and let her grieve. Whilst at the same time, long distance is long distance if you are in love you will work it out until you can be together.

You have already done the wrong thing by going back "sexually" I assume, whilst knowing he is back with his wife but you don't need to do the wrong thing and break her heart over knowing that he had a child whilst still with her.

I know i have said that twice but you need to hear it.

Also, if he left her, went back, left her, he may do so to you, so you need to establish he will leave, has left, live together, establish your both happy and then have a child.

But he needs to leave on his own accord if he loves you even if you are prepared to up-root yourself totally and go to him, and move in together to save money, you need to discuss all aspects to determine that he will move mountains to be with you.

CW