Thread: I'd be interested in some opinions please.

I fail to see why he can't be confident enough to show up solo, when ppl say ohhh your alone.. he can add sweetly that his lovely gf is out of town and could not join. That or bring along a buddy that would enjoy some free food and drink. Its obvious that you trust him, so its not about that. I think he needs to be comfortable flying solo while you guys are apart as events like these are likely to come up and everytime he needs arm candy just to have someone next to him at the table its going to stir up these exact feelings.

If he feels he needs to bring a female, he could ask his grandma, an aunt something sweet and cute to be his date. Or like the above poster mentioned - a family friend. I think him bringing some outsider co-worker, neighbor, anything like that is going to lead to some resentment on your part. Not that he would cheat, but that someone else is out on his arm doing what you wish you could be doing.

I don't think its wrong of you to be honest in whats at the heart of it, not your trust, but your missing him and wishing it could be you at the event.

If its a rare occurance, however, I can see bending for him and allowing some minor discomfort for yourself while giving the nod of okay to him bringing a platonic date. Its a give and take in these things.

what you are feeling is definitely normal. you are the girlfriend and in the first place, your boyfriend's family know you so it would be very uncomfortable if he brings another girl in a family event. It was a very good thing that you really confronted your bf on what you really feel. Is it really necessary to bring a "plus-one"??duh..i dont think so

I dated my husband for a long time before getting hitched and it was all long distance. I know where you're coming from. There were a lot of functions that we attended where it would have been nice to have each other as our dates, but for some reason or another one of us could not attend. It was common for us to bring other people as our date. We normally chose people that were 'just friends' and nothing more. They were usually the opposite sex.

I'm not stating that you're overreacting because that's how I felt the first time we did something like that. You do feel replaced and a bit of you fantasizes about him possibly cheating. The whole issue at hand is trust and whether you trust him or not. If you fully trust him then him bringing another woman to the wedding shouldn't matter. He is simply bringing her so he doesn't feel like the 3rd wheel at a 2 wheel party, get my drift?

I realize my view is different from others mentioned, but that's what makes the world go round!! I just wanted to reply because I know what you're going through. We survived and we're happily married!!! So, cheer up, it sounds like either way, it will be ok.