Thread: do u stay with a man if he cheats?

see chandler. i know i have a good head on my shoulders.
i may right or wrong to some but this is what i feel. i will state my opinion and if others agree with me than i know i am not the only one who thinks that way. if some do not agree with me then that is there right to do so and voice their opinion. and they too have the right to voice it. i do not take what they say to me as insults or wrong doings. but if one got dissed and then say the guy is the (insert), then that is wrong.
i stand firm on my beliefs of cheaters and liers. both deserv everything they get in life and have no reason to complain, gripe, moan, or anything about the outcome that they get.
you know little of my story, and i would love to tell you the whole thing. but it doesnt change anything, it isnt going to make things better, or get what i would like to have. it just doesnt.
i have said to people when we meet and they ask how are you? i tell them what i feel. if i am having a good day i will say so. if i am having a bad day i say i can complain but will it change anything, no. its that simple. i say things straight forward, i do not beat around bush. i tell the truth. the only lie i would ever tell is the one that is for a good reason. and that would be if i planned something for who i date and they have an idea of it and ask if i planned something, i will say no. like a b-day party for example. i want it to be a surprise. so that is the lie that can be told and is harmless. 99% of anything else that is told to someone untruthful, is a lie and is not good.
i had never lied to a child either. when i dated this woman who had 2 children, the one loved me very much. she was 8 and i had to put her to bed and tell her a bedtime story everytime i was there. she asked me one day if i was going to marry her mother. i told her i would like to but that is also your moms decision. she asked if i liked her or loved her? i said both. she asked why? i said i like you because you are a very important person to me for what we know of each other, and i love you for the time i know of you and you are a part of your mother, which makes you specail and that is a reason for my love of her. and this was a child. after we broke up i seen her about 2 years later in the store near my house. she came running to me and i didnt even reconize her because she grew up in those 2 years. she ran to me and hugged me and started to cry. i actually had a few tears myself and had to turn away. she wasnt with her mom but her aunt. we said hello to each other and then i told her that she had to go back with her aunt and maybe someday we'll run into each other again. this was about 8 years ago and we hadnt seen each other since, but i did not lie to her, i said maybe someday. so far that day hadnt happened yet but it can.

i understand you agree with what i said about cheaters. i still stand firm............ no reason at all......... get out of it because if you love someone you will not cheat and if a sitsuation does come around, you will turn your head & leave that sitsuation.

what is one thing that grownups try to tell there kids? and the law also tries to do the same. if you are in a sitsuaton and heve to fight, fight to defend yourself, but dont or try not to have the fight at all, turn away and walk. am i correct? so the same goers with cheating, turn away and walk.

now to understand this more. lets say for example you and me met. and if we got along great and hung out and everything. had alot of fun, both are attracted to each other and we do nothing but laugh and enjoy each other company. but one of us was dating someone else. if it was me who was already in a relatiionship, no matter what you did or said or acted, i would not cheat on her. or if you were daing someone and i liked you more that way, knowing your involved i would not cross that line. or let you cross it either. that is respect for both, myself and you and your guy.
people do not have the respect they should.
now if it was something i couldnt hide, or tell myself i have to be with you............ as hard as it would be, i would tell my girlfriend i found another. i would be honest and even if i hurt her i was honest with her. i opnly broke her heart for leaving, not cheating or lieing.
now does that make sence? and remember chandler, you were the example in that. so please do not take offense.............. all good?