Thread: Splitsville after ten years ?? :-/

I'm 27 and have been married to my wife for 4 years now. Been together for almost ten. We have a 2-year old son and both work full-time, but I'm starting to wonder if this marriage will last.

First of all, she hates her job. It stresses her out, and drives her up the wall. My job, on the other hand, is pretty laid back. I make a little less, but am able to stay home to raise our son. I also do about 98% of the work around the house, including cooking, cleaning, laundry, maintenance, etc. I recently earned my bachelors degree, but since it's in psychology, I'd need to continue school to make any sort of real living with it.

So my wife is basically tired of working (she's been there since I've known her) and tired of waiting for me to be the sole bread winner. She wants to quit her job, and be the one to stay at home with our son. Because of this, we fight a lot. I've been trying my best to look for a better job that would let her stay home, but with the current state of the economy, it's proved somewhat difficult.

We do have sex, but it's very disconnected and borderline platonic. I lay there and pump while she lays there and uses her vibrator til we both come. She can't come vaginally, a problem I'm thinking a lot of other women have. She also doesn't like to kiss, basically saying "I don't like to". We used to kiss a lot....but this is a big issue for me, I'm a very passionate person and love kissing as much as anything. She also gets mad when I touch her. We live alone so if she comes to sit on my lap, my hands are gonna be sliding up her shirt. This irritates her, but what can I do? I'm a guy, and I'm horny. Who else am I supposed to touch??

She also has a bad temper. The other day she threw some used diapers at me after reading some old comments on my myspace page. One of the diapers hit me square in the head and exploded everywhere. I ended up cleaning up the mess, and she never apologized. Actually, she tells me "there's more diapers where that came from", then went and deleted a bunch of my myspace friends (it was a couple of girls that were old friends, the comments were along the lines of 'hey, how you doin').

Then this morning, she cussed me out for dropping her off at work 5 minutes late, saying things like 'stupid ', and saying it was all my fault, when in reality she played on the computer while I had to wash up, as well as get our son ready to go. Things like this make me want to divorce her, I don't know how much longer I can put up with this.

I guess the question is, is this reason enough to get a divorce? I'm at the point where I want to hit her, and I'm a relaxed guy. Never been in a real fist fight in my life, and would never hit a woman. Help ??