Help! I'm Feeling Sad and Lonely

veronica2009 · 04-04-2009, 05:00 PM

Hey everyone!!!

Well its been about a few weeks since I was on here. I really need some advice. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 6 months now. well the first couple of months, we were dating, just getting to know each other. So maybe we have only been in a relationship for about 4 months.

Let me start off by saying he is a wonderful man, although he is 16 years older than me. Im 28, and he is 46. Still he is so wonderful. Well lately, it seems that i am doing all of the work. i know a relationship is suppose to be 50/50. He is a very busy man, he owns his own business, he works alot. but, lately, if i dont call him, he doesnt call me. I really like him, i am afraid to break things off with him. a part of me just wants to give up on him, but i know he is busy with his work. but he does not show me any attention if any.

can someone, anyone, give me some feedback as to what to do...i am making myself depressed over this, and i really need to make a move.

**WildChild** · 04-04-2009, 05:07 PM

Get out, keep busy, do stuff with freinds, take a class, start working out. Let him call you for a change. If he doesn't you'll not be wasting your time waiting.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 04-05-2009, 04:20 PM

Veronica.

I hope you didn't go from the frying pan to the fire.

So you met this man right after you obviously decided your husband whom you weren't living with from August, maybe was treating you wrongly, "friends with benefits".

I can see why you may be scared again, because all you really want is a proper relationship.

It also seems that you are non-trusting in a relationship and may have good grounds for it, ie) choose those whom think you are not aware?

Where did I read you sitting next to him and him answering his mobile, calling the person baby or sweet?

46 means he could have a daughter you know.

You need to simply ask the question, are we in a relationship or am i a person you see when you have time, because frankly, I am seeking a relationship, not a buddy to be with once in a while.

CW

**kms** · 04-07-2009, 10:37 AM

Before breaking things off with him, talk to him about your concerns first. It's not really fair to dump someone for something they had no warning or knowledge about.

veronica2009 · 04-24-2009, 07:18 PM

Thanks for all the advice...Chandler, i never said back in august he was my husband, he is my son's father.

But, a few days after i posted, my boyfriend texted me to let me know he was in hospital. I felt bad because i felt like he did not care about me anymore. it has been a couple weeks since he has came out the hospital. I havent seen him since I saw him in the hospital. i kept asking him if he want me to stop by, and he tells me yes, then when I am about to leave home, he calls and says he is tired or whatever. I just feel down once again because I feel like I am trying hard to show him that i care about him and want to be with him.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 04-24-2009, 07:26 PM

Sorry Veronica, I just remember that, that guy didn't treat you right.. and well as this one?

It seems to me that he has called you when he has felt "needy" but a couple of weeks have gone by and he puts excuses for you to see him..

Why don't you be straight forward with him and tell him that you like him alot and want to be with him, but your not into games, he either wants to see you or he doesn't...

Because you deserve a proper relationship, one that you can care about and know that you are cared for to.

CW

**acerousme** · 04-25-2009, 08:17 PM

Hey Veronica,
Honestly??....I think you deserve better. You should have someone that treats you like a goddess.

But for sure, talk to him about it...ask him what is up with this whole situation. Ask yourself questions as well..."Do I really know him?", "what exactly is he looking for"

I was in a relationship, very similar to this one...and I ended up breaking it off. I couldnt take his drama.
But in the end, this decision is up to you ( But I think you could do better, with someone who calls YOU.)

04-04-2009, 05:00 PM	#1
veronica2009 Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: south carolina Posts: 8	Help! I'm Feeling Sad and Lonely Hey everyone!!! Well its been about a few weeks since I was on here. I really need some advice. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 6 months now. well the first couple of months, we were dating, just getting to know each other. So maybe we have only been in a relationship for about 4 months. Let me start off by saying he is a wonderful man, although he is 16 years older than me. Im 28, and he is 46. Still he is so wonderful. Well lately, it seems that i am doing all of the work. i know a relationship is suppose to be 50/50. He is a very busy man, he owns his own business, he works alot. but, lately, if i dont call him, he doesnt call me. I really like him, i am afraid to break things off with him. a part of me just wants to give up on him, but i know he is busy with his work. but he does not show me any attention if any. can someone, anyone, give me some feedback as to what to do...i am making myself depressed over this, and i really need to make a move.

04-05-2009, 04:20 PM	#3
CHANDLERS WISH WH Head Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Australia Posts: 12,672 Blog Entries: 8	Veronica. I hope you didn't go from the frying pan to the fire. So you met this man right after you obviously decided your husband whom you weren't living with from August, maybe was treating you wrongly, "friends with benefits". I can see why you may be scared again, because all you really want is a proper relationship. It also seems that you are non-trusting in a relationship and may have good grounds for it, ie) choose those whom think you are not aware? Where did I read you sitting next to him and him answering his mobile, calling the person baby or sweet? 46 means he could have a daughter you know. You need to simply ask the question, are we in a relationship or am i a person you see when you have time, because frankly, I am seeking a relationship, not a buddy to be with once in a while. CW __________________ Women are Angels And when someone breaks our wings.... We simply continue to fly.........on a broomstick... We are flexible like that .... White Witch. Register! \| Rules/FAQ \| Contact Mod

04-24-2009, 07:26 PM	#6
CHANDLERS WISH WH Head Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Australia Posts: 12,672 Blog Entries: 8	Sorry Veronica, I just remember that, that guy didn't treat you right.. and well as this one? It seems to me that he has called you when he has felt "needy" but a couple of weeks have gone by and he puts excuses for you to see him.. Why don't you be straight forward with him and tell him that you like him alot and want to be with him, but your not into games, he either wants to see you or he doesn't... Because you deserve a proper relationship, one that you can care about and know that you are cared for to. CW __________________ Women are Angels And when someone breaks our wings.... We simply continue to fly.........on a broomstick... We are flexible like that .... White Witch. Register! \| Rules/FAQ \| Contact Mod

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04-04-2009, 05:07 PM	#2
WildChild WH Moderator Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 8,699 Blog Entries: 6	Get out, keep busy, do stuff with freinds, take a class, start working out. Let him call you for a change. If he doesn't you'll not be wasting your time waiting.

04-07-2009, 10:37 AM	#4
kms Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Indiana Posts: 267	Before breaking things off with him, talk to him about your concerns first. It's not really fair to dump someone for something they had no warning or knowledge about.

04-24-2009, 07:18 PM	#5
veronica2009 Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: south carolina Posts: 8	Thanks for all the advice...Chandler, i never said back in august he was my husband, he is my son's father. But, a few days after i posted, my boyfriend texted me to let me know he was in hospital. I felt bad because i felt like he did not care about me anymore. it has been a couple weeks since he has came out the hospital. I havent seen him since I saw him in the hospital. i kept asking him if he want me to stop by, and he tells me yes, then when I am about to leave home, he calls and says he is tired or whatever. I just feel down once again because I feel like I am trying hard to show him that i care about him and want to be with him.

04-25-2009, 08:17 PM	#7
acerousme Veteran Member (800+ posts & member 1 year+) Join Date: May 2008 Location: In the MIDDLE OF NOWHERE, Canada Posts: 969 Blog Entries: 47	Hey Veronica, Honestly??....I think you deserve better. You should have someone that treats you like a goddess. But for sure, talk to him about it...ask him what is up with this whole situation. Ask yourself questions as well..."Do I really know him?", "what exactly is he looking for" I was in a relationship, very similar to this one...and I ended up breaking it off. I couldnt take his drama. But in the end, this decision is up to you ( But I think you could do better, with someone who calls YOU.)