He came crawling back? What?

**vics68** · 04-17-2009 11:56 AM

So i posted before about the heartbreak I was going through before after being suddenly left after 2 years and he got with a teen mum.

A few weeks ago he came crawling back, all they did was argue about me and he even told her he was still in love with me but she still wanted to be with him....I have decided i would like him to get a job and then he can take me on a date. He has blocked all contact with the grl (or so we thought)...

She has rung his house, his mum and turned up...all failed to get his attention however now she has left him alone she has turned to me... I get prank phonecalls, shes creates falso internet accounts to speak to me. She is now spying on my facebook profile via our mutual friends on there. I have had to delete them all and notcied comments on their pages syaing "how do you know vicky"... Has she really sat and made it her mission to spy on me and what i do or say?
She had left me nasty messages last night and i can't understand why. I've not said anythng about her. nor do i know her well enough to judge i hoped she would be grown up enough to do the same.

My "boyfriend" is trying so hard to get me back and being understanding but everytime I feel i'm starting to get my footing she contacts me somehow. I realise it will be difficult to trust him again but he seems willing to take the time. They were together 3 weeks and i can't understand why she can't drop it. I am at a loss with what to do as I am happy until she digs it all up.

**kms** · 04-20-2009 10:59 PM

wow. It sounds like the girl is just a bundle of issues, eh? At least your bf had the sense enough to get out of that situation and realized that you were far better.

The security settings in facebook can allow you to block anyone who is not your friend from seeing your profile info, photos, your friends, and even your picture. You can make it so that someone can't even search for you. I would recommend doing that for now so that she can't even access you via your friends. She wouldn't even know who your friends are at that point (unless she's added all of them already). It's annoying that she's harrassing your friends, but my advice would be to just ignore it. Don't let her affect you or bother you. She WANTS to get a rise out of you, to make you angry, to get a response from you. So just don't give it to her. I don't think she's worth the time and energy in my opinion... I would feel sorry for her actually as it seems that she's built your bf up so high that out of desperation, she will do anything to hold on to him. Makes me wonder what her life has really been like, as it sounds like she might not have many healthy, supportive relationships.

**SecondGuess** · 06-09-2009 02:10 PM

Well it seems to me she's quiet obsessed with your boyfriend. Again as the previous person mentioned there are privacy settings on your facebook account that can be changed so that not everyone can see your profile openly.

Another option would be looking at a restraining order. It doesn't take very long and by having some of the messages on your phone or printing out messages she sends may be something to keep her at a distance. If she's doing this now you'll never know what she may do in the future so for the sake of your boyfriend and you possibly look into something like that.

**WildChild** · 06-09-2009 02:45 PM

Let's see, to summarize: He's unemployed? Not the father of her child? Left you to be with her? Left her to be with you?
Why do either one of you want him?
What's so compelling about this unemployed, indecisive guy?

**Kung Fu Kitty** · 06-09-2009 03:34 PM

Originally Posted by WildChild

Let's see, to summarize: He's unemployed? Not the father of her child? Left you to be with her? Left her to be with you?
Why do either one of you want him?
What's so compelling about this unemployed, indecisive guy?

seriously...i would let her have him....doesnt seem worth fighting for.
do you really wnat to make a family with a guy who is jobless and dumps you for teenage girls?

**caterpillar79** · 06-09-2009 04:42 PM

I agree with WC and KFK. You deserve a better catch. Distance yourself from him, you'll be much happier, and that teenage ex-gf will also stop bugging you.

It's a classic "if I can't have him, you can't have him either" scenario. Don't be in this stat.

**Mommy2Eryn&DJ** · 06-11-2009 03:35 PM

Do you wonder why if they only dated 3 weeks is she still so obsessive over him? Do you consider that maybe he’s still keeping contact? I mean I know its hard to see these things when you’re in love but if he was willing to leave you for a teenage girl a pregnant one that then how much do you think he actually cares? If you can honestly tell yourself that you see a change in him (which I wouldn’t be so quick to jump on I would put him on a 3month trial) then go for it.

**ThexMrs** · 06-12-2009 07:48 PM

Let's see, to summarize: He's unemployed? Not the father of her child? Left you to be with her? Left her to be with you?
Why do either one of you want him?
What's so compelling about this unemployed, indecisive guy?

Amen - You wrote exactly what I was thinking!

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