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She is jealous there is not much you can do love, she doesn't like you in the acquation, so be it.
All you can do is support your man...
It's all you can do..
CW
Their Ex
Hi ok how to start ive been in my current relationship for 8 months now we live together i have 3 children and he has 1 as well, We work really well together have a great time and all the children get along really well, my question is though i need help with his overbearing ex, any advice would be great here they have been seperated now for a year and were not happy for a long time before then we have talked alot about past relationships and how they ended and why. They have a child together who is nearly 3 and still after all this time she rings and sends abusive text messages about how he is a disinterested father and basically a bad dad and a bad person. They have an agreement that he has his son once a week with more time if they plan for it he works full time and last week we had decided not to pick him up as we had all been sick with a belly bug and didnt want to pass it on and make him sick, she didnt believe him and has been abusing him over it for the last two weeks now and had gotten to the point where he had even threatened to take legal action to stop her harassing him.
I know rightfully its none of my business but it changes our whole day when she has been on the phone all day abusing him and everyones moods get down because of it, any suggestions anyone?
She is jealous there is not much you can do love, she doesn't like you in the acquation, so be it.
All you can do is support your man...
It's all you can do..
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
thanks chandlers wish, I do get that she is jealous, she asked him to leave and when he moved on with his life she wasn't happy about it, but at teh same time he moved on because this was how she was normally, very verbally abusive to the point where she would yell and scream at him because he picked up the wrong packet of bread at the supermarket.
I will stand by him and support him thats what i figured i can do but thankyou for letting me know i guess that im doing the right thing in what i was doing in the first place!
She doesn't have the right to be on the phone abusing him, all day either.
It's her control..
I would change the home phone number to a silent number first off, and then if she texts messages that are hurtful, he should write back, this phone is only for you to call with problems with our child, anything else sent, won't get read.....
Call her bluff, get some of his own life back....
It's difficult seeing his child once a week and keeping a strong relationship but it would unfortunately, be worse if he had his sone 50/50 because she would for sure really be in his face.
You are standing by him and that's but that's all I can suggest as an add to perhaps what you can do..
I am sure other's have experienced exactly what you are and can offer more for you.
Just remember, the pair of you, that you are together and happy and someone like this will go out of their way to break you up, be happier if he was on his own...
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
You can remind him that don't give her what she wants......... for him to miserable too. REmind him he is no longer in that relationship as her beating post. I know they have a child together and they will always have a relationship but he will gradualy have to put limits and boundaries on how he allows her to speak and treat him.
if she was that controling over bread omg.........
You are wise to realize its his battle he has to win not your battle to fight. YOu can still be his loudest cheerleader and remind him he is not a bad person or dad.
Thanks guys, you all have valid points and he is trying to put a stop to it and sometimes it gets better then she starts again because she hasn't got her own way over something else.
He does ignore her to a degree he tries to be nuetral with her not argue with her because he wants to see his son, but it gets to the point where she makes him so angry that he even hates to go pick him up, its not that he doesn't want to see his son its that he doesn't want to see her it just makes my heart sink when ever she starts because I know its going to end up with her abusing him again she had even got to the point where through the week she sent a txt saying if i had of known you were going to be this disinterested in him i would of aborted him you can imagine how angry that would make any rational person and it made both of us angry, we would love to spend more time with his son but at the same time dont want her trying to control everything, it can be such a hard situation at times so thanks again for your advice!
WoW that is pretty harsh... sometimes some ppl make things as hard as they can possibly be. The trick is trying to stay one step ahead of them lol.
Can one of his family memebers pick his child so as to act as a buffer so he can have more time with his child.
good luck
That was something i was going to suggest even if he took a family member with him to help, would maybe be better than nothing.
Yeah they can be harsh and I can understand that she is hurt and that shes angry it didnt turn out the way she thought it would, but at the same time there comes a point where you have to learn when you are fighting a losing battle, im sure it will work out in the end its having the patience to get there sometimes lol
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