Meeting a total stranger ( i donno )

**mzhk** · 05-08-2009 07:14 AM

This man lives in a city where most are either model like or extremely under weight / under fed type. My kind rarely exsist. Well, I wasn't this bad b4 until this moment I sitll donno how I can gain this much. But hahahahahah my problem is as i was before in highschool? A sore sucker for food .... I found happiness in food as wild girls found in random men. Whenever my family would complain about my weight thats the example I always liked to use. At least its food nothing esle.

But I know what to do ; let fate take its course ahahha

**Favored** · 05-08-2009 12:54 PM

Go with your gut feelings. It's called women intuition...use it.

**WildChild** · 05-08-2009 01:32 PM

Why not get in and talk with a counselor? Your repeated statements of concern about this man becoming obssesive, when you haven't even met him and your concern that he is a 'bad' boy lead me to think you still have some work to do. If you are going to get back into dating you need have better self confidence in your ability to deal with any situations that may occur. If you are too vulnerable you are more likely to be a target for manipulative people. A good counselor, in a few sessions can help you deal with your fears and develop some better relationship skills for the future. This could be the best way to strengthen and protect yourself.

**mzhk** · 05-08-2009 04:24 PM

dangerous meaning too tired to properly spell or write properly. what I meant was i dated someone ( only 1 ) in my past. he was my first relationship. that loser was beyond obessive which kinda mentally lead me to kind of deplict the same thoughts about him upon any newer man that comes into my life in any forum. this one isn't obessive i'm just sorta 50-50 because im worried that this might end up into the same thing as my first relationship. I dont think we'll date...because this type isn't the date-able type.

You kinda can sense a homeboy ( nerd type ) and a bad boy type b4 you even spend an hr with them... like all the other ladies says 6th sense....yes i have seen a lot of therapist because of my absuive controlling relationship 3 years ago but it didnt help much. where i live? all doctors think that is nesscary is to forse feed pills to you. i dont want any anti depressants or nerve relax pills...

**mzhk** · 05-08-2009 04:26 PM

no need to worry! i donno how to close off this thread. CW solved my doubts... I know what i'm going to do.....thanks again for all the tips everyone esle

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 05-08-2009 05:08 PM

Well.... If you got something from it and feel that you can go with that, that's great.

mzhk... Sometimes you will get opinions and ideas that seem to make sense to you, sounds "right".

Sometimes you will get opinions, ideas that wont click, or even get you mad a bit, because it brings back past thoughts.... huh...

Take what you think will work for you, out of all you read... It's a bit like College and doing a Course, if you get something from it good...GREAT!!!!

There will be other questions, so we look forward to helping you with other Threads you post and hearing your thoughts on matters, this is a great site, hang about..

CW

**kms** · 05-09-2009 12:43 AM

Not sure if you'll check back to see other responses or not since you mentioned wanting to close the thread, but I thought I would just add that a very wise philosopher once said that there are two things in life that can never be satisfied - our stomach and our genitals. Some people try to satisfy the cravings by eating, others by (edited)... , as you wisely noted by making the comparision between yourself and girls who chase (edited) a man's atonomy. However, the problem is that the urge can never be satisfied, no matter how hard you try... you can make yourself sick trying, or even let your whole life and focus revolve around it, but the cravings will never go away.

I grew up emotionally eating, but was in sports til high school and started running in college so I never really got too overweight. I became aware of it about 3 years ago and managed to overcome it (and lost 20 lbs in the process!). It's still a daily challenge to not eat when I feel stressed, or upset, or when I feel like celebrating... pretty much any feeling makes me want to eat. But once I read what that philosopher said, I realized that I might as well just fight it off since even if I give in and try to satisfy it, I'll still feel it. So, the feeling remains no matter what. Might as well make myself happier by living a more balanced, healthier life! So... just some 'food' for thought.