Thread: My husband moved out

^ My guess is there was a lot leading up to this point (and she didn't say that they never went to counseling or sought help), but perhaps missy369 didn't want to see it, or didn't look at what the reality of the possible outcomes of their problems might be.

Sure it makes sense to move in with someone just after walking out on someone else. My guess is that things have been bad (on his side at least) for a long time, and meeting this new girl was what gave him the 'courage' to walk out. Perhaps he stayed so long only because he couldn't imagine anything better... not saying this is truly 'better', because a long relationship with much invested in it is much different than the highly emotional, hormonal, and unrealistic onset of a new relationship. So as you said, he had an affair and was already comfortable enough with this girl to move in with her. Makes sense to be able to cut costs of moving out and spending a lot on the expenses of living alone.

And wishing you happy mother's day makes sense; he cares about you as the mother of his child. Mother's day isn't a romantic day, so he's not expressing his desire to get back with you or anything. Plus if I were in his shoes, I would definitely make sure I tried to be as considerate as possible if I'd just walked out on an 8-year commitment with a child involved!

Despite how good or how bad the relationship might have been, it is very difficult losing someone who was such an integral part of your life for that long of a time. Not to mention sharing the experience of having a child with them... seems unimaginable. Nevertheless, the best thing is to really be honest with yourself and analyze what went wrong and what you yourself did to contribute to the destruction of your relationship... and then what steps can you take to improving yourself and making things better for the next time. The best way to deal with life's hardships are to try to learn as much as we can from them and make the most out of each experience. Turn each tragedy into a lesson.

Missy 369...pretty much the exact same thing happened to me and my 2 kids. my fiance of 5 years left me and our 4 month old baby and 4 year old daughter just outta the blue no warning wat so ever. He also had been very friendly with a girl he worked with and told me that he wasnt leaving me for her yadda yadda yadda, he did end up being with her and he still is and its 12 months later. I know u probly dont wanna hear that but he to done the same thing to me with the emotional stuff... he still does it now he gets jelous about little things i do and i think really why do u care? i often think he does stil love me deep deep down and that he regrets wat he done but i dont know if its just mayb wishful thinkin or if it is the case i dont know. it is hard isnt it.... dunno if that helped you really, but im glad to know that im not the only one that is/has gone through this.