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  1. 06-13-2009 02:57 AM #1
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    My boyfriend and I have been together almost 6 years and we also currently live together. We've been through a lot and I feel like I've always stood by him and done whatever I could to support him in tough time. An example is about 6 months ago he got a DUI and I supprted him financially and emotionally. But all of a sudden he became cold towrds me and now works almost 24/7. He isn't affectionate at all and we haven't been intimate in 5 months.

    A few weeks ago I confronted him because I was feeling neglected and he told me that he loves and cares about me, but has no desire to be in a relationship.

    I don't know how he can suddenly feel this way after all I've done for him. I'm just not sure what to do. Do I persue him or just accept what he says?

    Also, like I said we live together. The big problem with that is we rely on eachother to pay the rent. I can't move home because it's too far from my new job and I would cause him the trouble of having to move. So essentially I am forced to live with someone I want and love more than anything, who doesn't want me in return.

    I'm havign a very difficult time emotionally. How should I cope with this horrible situation?

    Any advice would be much appreciated.
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  2. 06-13-2009 03:40 AM #2
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    Unfortunately, you can't look at what you give in a relationship and expect.

    On the same accord, they can't accept and not give.

    It sounds like he's depressed. Do you know what over, why?

    Is finances hard? You say he works 24/7 that's because he doesn't want to come home, again why?

    It also sounds like he needs fun, happiness, not, I do this, I do that, why can't you do this, do that.

    When you live together, you can get caught in a rut of just being, doing, cooking, cleaning, no happy laughter and fun together.

    Has this all gone to the wayside?

    Only you can answer that.

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    How are you doing so far? Have you had any conversation to sort things through? If this is not at all possible, don't fuzz about it. Easier said than done, but leave him alone. You can be there in the same roof, but try to leave him his space. He has issues that only he can resolve (if he so decides). As for you, don't burn your energy worrying about him. If you love, you give...don't expect anything in return. This is the true measure of love. How far can you go?
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  4. 06-14-2009 10:07 PM #4
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    i agree with caterpillar79, you can live under the same roof and get on with your life. maybe if he sees you dealing well with things he may see what he is missing.
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