Thread: in love or not

When you married him, you promised him that you'll stay by his side for better or for worse, till death. This is the beginning of the "worse" (I think). The fact that you are having second thoughts about leaving looks to me like you are debating between your moral and spiritual values. Sometimes, being true to oneself defies all other standards set by our society. You are the only person who can answer that.

Ask yourself: which is more important? satisfying your sexual needs or keeping your family intact. I think, you can satisfy your sexual needs on your own, you just have to look and search on HOW to do it. There are various ways for him to satisfy you as well, if he is open to try new ways given his condition. It may or may not require medication...all it takes is a team effort from both of you and a medical practitioner.

Unless, you have already decided deep within on what to do, and just finding some sort of validation for that decision in this forum, I would rather stay with him and keep the family happy. That is just me. There are a lot of things that you can do to address your sexual desires, really. Search the web.

And btw, you might find me contradicting myself (because I deserted my husband). I did it because he was abusing me, and this kind of "worse" is the kind that I couldn't take for life, so I came to the saturation point : I left.

For as long as abuse is not the issue, staying with him even though the "romantic" spark is gone, is OK. And you are the only one who can "decide" whether to put that spark back or not. I hope this helps.