Thread: *used*

What you have done is romanticed an extremely
unpleasant interlude. By elevating this guy to some
import you hide the fact that you were, as you name
suggests, used.

He played a game, he won.
Now you have to move on.

What I found works is a psychological distraction.
Sort of a Pavlovian training...

Every time you think of this guy you are to look at
something. Give your self a focus...and tell your
self: "When I look at (whatever) I will remember
how it feels to be used by this guy"

Make it clear to yourself, write it down...
you were nothing but an easy screw.

If you eventually get through to your sub-conscious
so that as soon as you think of him you look at
your 'distractor' and think of how he used you,
eventually you teach your id that it is unpleasant
to think of thim.

It works.

Well we have all been there! Just have to find a rebound and move on. He doesnt care about you and never will.
Sad fact of life and it sucks but just dont make it known you are still fretting over him! You might become the laughing stock of work!

Everyone always wants to be in love.
And sometimes when our emotions outshout
our brains we believe the first clown who
comes along.

Sure, we all heard the stories about people
like Jean17, but it CAN'T HAPPEN TO US!
until
IT HAPPENS TO US.

Many times we are lucky...not smart...
lucky...that the guy who wants to use
us doesn't get the chance.

Lucky...
like seeing him with another girl
Lucky....
like being unable to keep that tryst
due to circumstances beyond our control.

When I was young I had one never failed
line;

"I'm not having sex until I'm married."

The guy who 'loved' me so much three seconds
ago, finds someone else to annoy.

I really like your frist post, Kayar...but I'm confused on the second...why would you say you had one line that works..."Stay a virgin untill marriage?" I already crossed that bridge, and I lost my virginity to him, and I already stated that I don't regreat it...I just want to move on from it. That's why I really liked your first message! This is how I look at it, "For what it was worth, it was worth all the while." I just want to know how to move on...sometimes staying a virgin until marriage isn't for everyone, and I knew from the gecko that being a virginuntil marriage wansn't for me...it's a personal subject that each person must decide for themselves.

You don't have to be a virgin to tell people you are...
esp. people you don't know.

When I attended University I used to wear a silver
band on my wedding finger. People thought I was
married. I wasn't married. In fact, I was a virgin,
but what I was doing was;
1) reading my book
2) starting every male person on the platonic scale
3) making friends with people as friends

There's nothing you can do now, Jean in re the
fellow you think you love.

There is a difference between lust and love.
A difference between infatuation and love.

You can't love this guy, you don't know him.
YOu love the 'role' he played.

I loved Tyr on Andromeda. I don't know the
actor, and what I've heard about the actor
I don't think I'd even like him. But I love
Tyr....the character he played.

Lots of people act....'All the World's a Stage..."

what you have to do is prepare for your next
role.

This is quite confusing advice look just go hang out with your friends party hae a good time and when you meet the next guy dont put all your feelings on the line just feel him out first!