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My Bisexual Boyfriend
Ok, im a guy and im Bi. Im 27. I met my boyfriend who is very closeted eight months ago and he is 21 and very nice and intelligent but immature.
I came out of the closet for him and I changed my entire life. He has made almost no changes for me.
In the beginning he would show me an enormous amout of affection and he would take the bus to see me everyday...he would bring me presents, he would kiss me all the time ( without me asking him) he would want to spend the nite at my house.... now he is becomming more distant and he wont kiss me or hug me unless I beg him...?
He always telles me he is hot or tired.
He hates doing everything I want to do... Movies, Roadtrips,sports,malls,bowing,beaches,casinos,boat tours...etc And when I beg him to go with me he acts miserable the entire time and it ruins my time.
He tells me that he wants to go to a bathhouse...he wants us to have threesomes all the time because hes 'horny and young' so I have to get dragged to a bathouse and have sex with him and these strangers....I am so frustrated because I dont want to do it....but he says "thats what interests me" ok.....he is a sexaholic and a nympho.... I dont call it equal when I want to go to a movie and he doesnt....and he wants to go to a bathhouse and I dont....he makes the comparason....how can he compare a bathouse and a movie theatre???? WTF
he always gets me to have sex with random people and he invites them over to my house and screws them in the other room....while im in the livingroom...... this is so he can cheat infront of my back instead of behind my back.
He is incapable of maintaining a healthy relationship and he has to have sex constantly....when I was 21 I was able to keep it in my pants.
Now when I hug him in public he gets very very mad.... he wont even sleep at my house because his mom wont let him?
I cant handle all his messed up life....I love him but i am beginning to think we are not compatable???
He doesnt want to do anything except sex with strangers? I want a normal life...
I feel I am a very attractive man but I have a horrible self esteem due to my boyfriend not wanting to show any affectionate feelings towards me. All his friends think I'm gorgeous and other men I work around - but the one who needs to notice me and have affection for me doesn't.
When we are out in public he is always checking out other women and men - even ones not as attractive but always younger. I just can't understand and neither can the friends I have that are guys. They state that they don't understand how he can keep his hands off me. I'm not sure if it is me, or if it is him? Should I dump him for a better guy, someone that does think I'm gorgeous and can't keep their hands of me? I know there aren't a shortage of guys around me. Their are alot of very lonely people who would love my affection.
Luka Magnotta
Do u like the little chimp? Hes my little pet and ya that me..
I love your chimp!!! He/She is SO cute!
The situation you describe sounds complicated. I guess a lot of it really depends on how you feel about 'open relationships'. If his constant desire to have sex with other people contributes to your discontent, then I would recommend establishing rules with him. If he wants to be in a relationship with you, he needs to respect you.
You did mention that you know there are plenty out there who would appreciate you--perhaps it's time to find someone who respects you.
Sorry...just saw that you mentioned your Chimp is a "he"....
Luka, does he ever do anything that actually makes you happy? And if so is anywhere near as often as he makes you sad/feel badly about him or yourself. You have to put that on a scale and if its not even balancing... if there is much more pain that happiness.. you should , in fact, let him go.
Everyone has ups and downs, and everyone gets hurt now and then but if by and large they make your day a little bit brighter by being in your life.. its worth working the problems out. He see's no problem and THAT is a problem. He doesn't respect your wanting more of a monogomous relationship and it doesn't sound like he is going to any time soon.
If you can't see yourself leaving him at this point, start preparing for it, slowly but surely ... care less and less about him...start making new friends and letting him know you are going to be open to meeting someone more likeminded , someone ready to settle down.
Unless you thrive in misery, don't put yourself through it.
Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.
I agree with hoplessdork. You want something totally differnt than your BF that is all that is wrong. There is nothing wrong with you nor is there anything wrong with him. You guys are just on different times in life he wants to party and experience everthing and you have been there done that and want more than just strangers
Well, I think he's a user, sorry, i disagree with the above because of this:-
.He always telles me he is hot or tired
He can't have you as a boyfriend, and then treat you like dirt, not be affectionate, kiss you, hug you, and then invite himself over with another person, have sex with them whilstyou are in another room waiting for it to be over and say, pfttt bad luck mate... Like it or get lost.he always gets me to have sex with random people and he invites them over to my house and screws them in the other room....while im in the livingroom...... this is so he can cheat infront of my back instead of behind my back.
He may initually have been in awe, older man, cute, hot, likes me, young, whoo hoo and so he did so much for you, you fell in love.
I imagine he's the agressor and you are the femine one of the two and consequently as he started to realise this, he began taking advantage of you, taking you to places he could have sex, with someone else with you, and then alone without you being able to be there.
He has no respect.
He also wants something different than you want from life, this I think is what the above posters are saying, he wants fun, craziness, non-commitment ,you WANT commitment, a commited relationship.. Two different peas in a pod .
But, he is being disrespectful, "if you have stated that your not happy doing these things"..
If you have never stood your ground really and told him how you feel about all of this and that you don't want to do it, he is in my opinion, still taking advantage of you because it's not hard to tell when someone is just "going along" with something instead of "loving it"...
But, it gives him cause to continue, until you say NO MORE.
CW
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It doesn't happen over night
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you must believe!
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