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Tiffy, at 16 years old... you are, in most states, not yet considered an "adult" so being put in a situation where your boyfriend has a child can feel competitive when it shouldn't. I guess , I don't want to come off sounding condesending but you are but a child yourself in most adults eyes, its natural that you would have some jealousy toward a smaller child, like one would a little brother etc.
How old is this guy you are dating? You have a whole life ahead of you to worry about whether or not the two of you will have children together, I wouldn't be so concerned with what he is saying right now as he is probably overwelmed at the moment having a kid if he is as young as you are... so the thought of another seems too much... and rightfully so.
You can be proud of the fact that your boyfriend stood up to his responsability. It says a lot for his character in a world where many men abandon their child when things don't work out with the woman they got pregnant.
His love for his child and love for you are two different loves. You can't expect to be loved more than his baby but you can also expect to not be loved less. You would never forgive yourself if you drove a wedge through him and his child because you were needing to be the center of attention at all times.
He is going to need to talk to the childs mother, its the only healthy way to raise a child even if they don't even like each other. He is with you and has been so for a year, he must be doing things to make you feel loved and special or you would have left a long time ago.
Relax and realize that if you were gone the baby wouldn't replace you, he still obviously needs and wants you in his life. If you want to stay with this guy you are going to have to come to terms with his situation and not let yourself stress out and worry for no reason.
Oh, Boy
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