Thread: Abandonment

Some people can not be mended. They are frozen with fear and cemented in their past. They do not even understand what pain and hurt they impose on people around them. I was in the similar situation, and my heart still aches when I am writting this. Run away from these people as they only destroy your life and they will never change.

Pollyprince, thank you. if you could expand on this. what hope did you see in your significant other that caused you to continue the relationship? what awful things would they commit against you? Was it being absent? Cruel comments? etc? Please respond if it is possible, if you are still recovering then I will understand if you cannot address this in detail. This lady is cool, but the hurt she caused was only in me. The friends received the best of her. The jist of her is that she cannot give too much of herself to any one person.

Ladies, my ex and I have undergone a strange change. She had not contacted me in 6 weeks. No verbal breakup, nothing. Simple disappearance.
I went to a party on Halloween. She was there and was surprised to see me. We did not talk. I did not approach her nor did I meet her eye at any point. I avoided looking at her. I could feel her gaze. I was dressed good, ladies were approaching me. I left early and as I did, I spoke with her best friend who was standing directly behind her. She knew I was standing there. I placed my hand on her back, spoke her name. She didn't turn around, she did nothing. I left feeling mild disappointment. Even at an older age, people play high school games.
I am happy, my art and music is coming along. Balance is the key. I will not go all out when the next woman comes along. My large void that has existed all my life can only be filled with inner happiness. Though my heart has a bunch of love to give...I will only give it to someone who can reciprocate it.

As for my "ex," I emailed her the following day. I declared that she did what was best for us. That it was good to breakup. I thanked her for it. I am certain she is relieved.
Readers, please take care in giving your love to heartache. It is not worth it. Emotions are so strong that they supersede logic. I fought it over 2 months. Now the feelings are getting weak. Memories are strong, but the feelings are lessening. It is a sad conclusion, but life goes on. I am look for permanent love because life is short...time runs like water, swift, stopping for no one.
Ladies...I will keep on this website, looking to help you like you have helped me. If you want my contact let me know. I send goodness and warmth from So. Cal., Godspeed to all of you.