Thread: Need some help with my girlfriend

Did you ever tell her that she's suffocating you? That if she keeps this up, instead of making you get close to each other, she's pushing you away. Why not explain to her that you often want time to miss her too.

Do you ever make her feel secure with your relationship? How do you go about it? Just some insights.

You are right everyone needs time on their own. This relaitonship is new and she wants to occupy your time . I don't think she means to stress you out by being in the mood... she wants to get to know you physically too

I would suggest to her that you want her to hang out with her friends and keep on developing her life and make plans to hang out and have lots of fun together. Take up an activity together and challenge each other mentally, physically and emotionally. Tell her cause you want to develop a well rounded relationship not just a sexual relationship.

It's possible that she's just really excited about the new relationship, and will likely calm down over time. Most relationships are so exciting in the beginning it can be hard to want to be away from the new person, but I think it always disipates, and she will likely get used to being around you and not feel oblgiated to spend every moment with you.

It sounds like insecurity might be her problem. There's always that fear when you're in a new relationship with someone you really care about. Find out how to make her feel secure. If you really like her, find ways to let her know that you don't have intentions of leaving. However, if you have doubts about how much you like her, then you'll need to find a way to tell her that suffocation will push you away. It may hurt her feelings, but she also may not realize it otherwise. You don't want to let it crash and burn... address it as soon as you can with her.

Sometimes people try to be as affectionate and close as possible, and in the process they drain your energy. In a stable relationship, both people are content about the amount of time they spend together. Try to find a compromise.

First thing is first....honesty. If you can't be honest about your thoughts, feelings and wishes, then what do you really have?

She probably is caught up in the newness of the relationship and it's great that she likes you enough to want all that time together. The reality of it is though, is it's not what you want. It's perfectly normal (and healthy)to want to have time with your friends and time on your own.

Fact of the matter is, you need to talk to her and tell her how you're feeling..making sure to point out you're very happy in the relationship. She probably won't like hearing what you have to say but she'll have to respect it.

Total honesty now saves you both heartache later. Good luck!

Thanks for all the replies everybody.

The fact is that I took action last night, right after I posted the question here, so I kinda relied on my intuition. But as i read, I found out that I acted good. I told her that she's going to push me away if she wants to take over my life and that I need my time alone or with my friends, but I also told her that I'm here to stay. She took it pretty bad at first, but afterwards I think she realised that it's ok and it looks like a promising relationship so far.

So thanks again!

Danny.