Thread: my fiance is bisexual

Cheating is cheating, regardless of the gender. What would you do/feel if he were cheating on you with a woman?
I identify as a bisexual female who prefers males. There's a big spectrum out there, and your fiancé may prefer males as well, but as you mentioned does not feel comfortable with himself. Lots of people throw the idea out there that if a person is bisexual, they can never get "everything they want" out of one person because that person is only ONE gender. Let me tell you, that's a BS excuse.
Forget talking about it with him. You said you've done that enough. Talk about it with YOURSELF. People have to be given a reason to stop cheating, and they have to find that reason themselves. Don't give ultimatums you can't follow up on ... but don't throw your life away with someone who deep down doesn't want you (or JUST you.)

When he cheated on you the first time, I am sure it broke your heart. I am sure you told him this... I am sure he made promises that it would never happen again. A lot of people can't find it in their heart to forgive one transgression, and you did and you should be proud that you were strong enough to give him another chance.

However, when he did it AGAIN, as you said... he knew how much it was going to hurt you, he watched all of that unfold the last time, and STILL....did it again. So either his desire to be with someone else is so strong his love for you can't fight it or he just didn't care how much it could hurt you... his passing desire of the moment mattered more.

Either way.... you are not being treated like you should be treated. When a man gets engaged to a woman, a straight man... his desire , his being attracted to other women doesn't end... but he agrees to give them all up for his love. I don't see why being bi makes that any different. He should be agreeing to give up others to focus on you.

I think marrying him would be a mistake. I'm sorry. I think if you want to wait it out and continue a relationship that its up to you there, but I think marriage should be put on the back burner, indefinitely. Please don't ever think that marrying him will change this behavior, or make him snap into fidelity. It won't.