Thread: upset

In 1996 I began corresponding with a chap
on the Internet. We write, we ring each
other up, but our conversations have never
had any reference to underwear, sex, or
anything that his wife could not read.

In fact, when I rang him up, his wife was
happy to hear from me and called him.

This is because we are friends...intellectual
friends. Yes, we can share experiences, but
not what my husband said or his wife did.

There are lines you don't cross.
You don't cross them not because they are
there thick and bold, but because you don't
have certain discussions with those kinds of
friends.

At the same time I was talking to him, I was
also talking to another chap.

He learned his wife was having a of a
cyber affair with a man 1000 miles away.
He ran for the divorce lawyer.

There certainly wasn't any chance of sexual
connection..., the photograph the guy
sent could have been an actor, and he could
of been 87 years old...
but that was not the issue.
The issue was the relationship between the
people.

There's no sense to play Sherlock Holmes.
No sense having to catch him.

Assume he's cheating, and make your
decision based on that.
Even if it hasn't reached the physical.
what is the underwear doing in an intellectual
discussion?

Originally Posted by ellie

I found this site and am really glad because I need some advice. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years, he has always used the internet alot. I got curios and looked at some of his pictures. one of them was a girl I had seen him talking to on msn in her underwear. I didnt say anything but since then she has been texting and calling him. I found one text with her address saying to go round to her house. When I told him about it he said she is a friend so I brought up the photo of her and all he said was SO. He then told me I am paronod and he has never cheated. I am so upset and dont know if I should leave him. Please help

You told us just enough to paint the tip of the iceberg.

I would have to ask and get answers to dozens of questions before I would venture an informed opinion on this matter.

Suffice it to say at this juncture that your boyfriend is not very upfront, first and foremost, and that does not bode well for your future together, on the surface.

He's in the early stages of cheating if he hasn't already done so. He's nonchalant answer to your inquiry indicated he doesn't care about your feelings. If he keeps it up, run for the boarder!

Originally Posted by ellie

I found this site and am really glad because I need some advice. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years, he has always used the internet alot. I got curios and looked at some of his pictures. one of them was a girl I had seen him talking to on msn in her underwear. I didnt say anything but since then she has been texting and calling him. I found one text with her address saying to go round to her house. When I told him about it he said she is a friend so I brought up the photo of her and all he said was SO. He then told me I am paronod and he has never cheated. I am so upset and dont know if I should leave him. Please help

Shaggy did a song; "It wasn't me,"
for those who never heard it, basically
Malvo was caught and Shaggy was
giving him advice...

"...but she saw us in the shower!:

"It wasn't me."

Men lie. They lie even when caught dead
to rights, they lie.

There is no reason to ask him anything...
he will lie.

time to move on.