"Boys will be boys". It's just how they are. It's why we cannot live with them or without them. My boyfriend now, whom I believe I will spend my life with, has a lot of traits I told myself I didn't want in someone. BUT I LOVE HIM. I accept these annoying little things he does because I'm sure there are some that I have too. I've never had a boyfriend who was SUCH A GUY! And he owns up to it, too. Sometimes I get a little upset or whatever. But I've already decided that he's the one for me, and I love him, so I accept him for who and how he is.
If you love this man and believe he would make a great husband and possibly father, then you should try to find a way to ignore those traits, but keep your complete happiness a priority.
Being around men constantly I hear conversations that no man would want his g/f or significant other to hear. I've become one of the guys. Vulger conversation that come off really womanizing. These are the male traits I'm refuring to. Strip clubs, obsession with lust. I wonder if it is just the men I am around all the time, or if some men are just better at hiding it?
Men vary as do women but you dealing with men in a high stress situation, that pulls in a lot of group think, high adrenilin situations and is very testosterone driven (military action requires aggression that's just part of the deal no matter how controlled or planned).
Having been associated with the construction industry there can be a lot of this. My observation has been women who try to be "one of the guys" don't fare well, nor do those who get all prissy and pissy about stuff. You have to find a middle ground and stay true to yourself. Of course you can't walk off and leave it at the end of day, which makes it harder.
Can you turn any of it back to them with some humor?
Susan Jane Gilman, who wrote Kiss My Tiara, says when men question women's ability to think rationally, you have to remember that this is the gender that regularly attends Monster Truck Expos and can talk talk nonstop about nicknames for their penises for an average of twenty-seven years.
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
LOL - purse and tupperware parties come to mind. not to mention naming your sex toys.Originally Posted by WildChild
A purse is a sort of woman's tool belt. Rarely carry one myself but am looking for a good tool belt. It isn't at all unusual to see me out and about in the world with a pencil sticking out of my ponytail and a screwdriver and pair of pliers in my back pocket. Does tend to weigh me down.
As for tupperware - oh my, went to one of those things many years ago. Only once. Now the UU ladies winter gift exchange is another story, that can involve things like bottles of Crown Royal and last year there was a battle over a gift that contained a copy of Going Down, among other things....
Women don't name anything like men do their penises.
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
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