Thread: Women, Marriage, Culture...RANT

We don't have that strict age rules about marrying in my culture (I'm Asian too).

But some parents in this continent can be really demanding. My parents are lax but I know some who would pressure their children to be honor students, get to top schools, and marry someone very rich, handsome and career-driven. Lol.

Some parents will not pressure the daughter, but they will make her feel so undesirable by reminding her everyday that she is not engaged to be married.

It's pain in the , I know.

I'm around your age too. Don't worry. There may be less available men our age but we could always date younger ones! (Cougar mode, yeah!) I realized I don't want to be with someone my age or a bit older. Things can get too serious fast (yes, even if he is a Westerner); there is an assumption that you are planning to settle down soon. At least, with a younger guy, you can just have a casual relationship and concentrate on you work, school and other interests. You won't have those annoying talks about commitmentphobia and all that from men. (Just because we mentioned kids doesn't mean we want to have children with them! Duh!!)

Don't mind them. Just enjoy.

I already have enough insecurity, jealousy and attachment problems. The last thing I need is pressure from parents. *whew*

Similar to where I come from. Everyone is beginning to look at me as a failure cos I am not married at 27.
I was telling an uncle about my plan to start my masters and he was lie: no. I shld get married. Men don't like women who are too accomplished!

A friend of mine is geting married to a guy she met on the phone! Infact they have already done a court wedding! His frien represented him.
So he is goig to come back for the whitewedding, and then both of them leave after that.
I was trying to advice her about her decision and she went:
Hmmm. I have been trying to even hook you up with one of my hubby's friends. I think you shld consider. You are getting old! Marriage is a duty. You need to just go into it, have children and make urself happy!

I was shocked! Besides here, divorced women r looked on as if they have a disease. Its like a stigma! So u r forced to take from men all In the name of staying back.
My mum was hospitalised severally becos of my dad beating her for stupid reasons like: I called u and u did not answer! Imagine.

Wife beating is legal here. No police would arrest anyone for beating his wife.
If you can't bear a male child, your husband would be coerced into marrying a second wife (with you in the house) and the three of u wld live together!

The pressure to get married n the culture is suffocating!

Originally Posted by jaygirlweek96

I was telling an uncle about my plan to start my masters and he was lie: no. I shld get married. Men don't like women who are too accomplished!

Master's degree?

I thought you said you were a doctor.

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