Caught my boyfriend wearing my panties?

**crazyone81** · 09-12-2009 10:40 PM

Okay so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year and a half now. I'm 20 he is 21 we are juniors in college. We have a wonderful relationship and we love each other very much and plan on getting married. We have a great sex life along with being best friends along with many other qualities. Well the other night he wasn't expecting me and I came over to suprise him (I have a key) we were sitting on the couch and he bent over to get something that fell and that's when I was in shock. He was wearing one of my pink lacy thongs. He is a very masculine man and this is what I would least expect. I questioned him about it and he said he wears them sometimes when he is in the "mood". I don't know what to think or if this is suppose to turn me on or what because it definitly isn't hitting the spot. Please help me

**dr.mansview** · 09-12-2009 10:54 PM

perhaps he is a cross dresser..doubt he did it for your benefit since u surprised him..if this bothers u it is best to discuss it now before the nuptials..don't be accusatory or he may get defensive and u may not find out his true reason for doing so

**crazyone81** · 09-12-2009 10:58 PM

He told me he likes the feel of them, he is def. not a cross dresser. He just said he does it when he is turned on sometimes. He is ripped and definitely wears the pants in our realtionship and sex. But I just don't really understand it. I love him and would never leave him for this. But would any other women like to see their bf or husband in their panties for that matter?

**LanaBear** · 09-12-2009 11:13 PM

That would be a No... I would be shocked nonetheless.

He's obviously has a fetish, there's nothing wrong with it, but if it makes you comfortable, you need to talk to him about it.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 09-13-2009 12:53 AM

http://www.womens-health.com/boards/...s-panties.html

Started by a male who likes wearing panties.....

Buy your man men's g-strings from a local sex shop in silk.

And:-

Silk boxer shorts....

It's the same thing, so if he doesn't like them and prefers yours, it's a fetish of female undies, not the feel of the undies.

CW

**Hopeless Dork** · 09-13-2009 02:21 AM

Yeah, I'm not buying the "feel of them thing" as CW said, they make mens underwear in the same materials.

If its the fact that they are your panties that turn him on, you'd think holding them and touching them (even smelling them, etc,) would do the trick just fine.....

Putting them on....eh, thats leaning on the cross dressing spectrum. He's macho, he's masculine, if he wants to feel womens clothing - wearing a dress would not work for him. Panties... he could get the joy of wearing womens clothes and the rush of no one knowing that he's doing so.

Besides you, of course, now that is. If it doesn't bother you, then you'll be fine. You need to find out for him the extent of his curiousity in wearing your clothes, that way you can decide if you'd be fine with him if his interests expand beyond panties.

Many, many cross-dressers are heterosexual masculine macho men... maybe that is part of the thrill , getting to feel feminine for once... who knows.

My boyfriend does not do this, but I wouldn't really care if my guy liked to do it if it stopped with panties. I wouldn't be comfortable with any more than that. It would NOT turn me on if he was into the panty thing, but it wouldn't be a deal-breaker for me if it stopped with that.

**rcoreyus** · 09-13-2009 06:16 AM

Its a common fetish - I don't think it is anything to worry about. I don't get it myself (I'm a guy), but its pretty tame and harmless compared to a lot of fetishes. (tell him to buy his own panties so he doesn't stretch out yours).

This is a good chance to show that you are open minded and that he can trust you. You can even include it in your sex play if you want -maybe touch and caress him with a set of underwear.

There are a lot of worse things you could have found him doing when you came in.

**danceintx** · 09-13-2009 10:58 AM

Sounds like a harmless fetish to me, although would probably shock the crud out of me. Pay very close attention to whether or not it ends there though. I think if that's all it was, him wearing my undies every now and then, I don't think I would end a relationship over it.

**Isabellacat** · 09-13-2009 02:10 PM

I had a boyfriend like this years ago LOL....caught him wearing my panties but I got back at him by wearing his boxers.Funny cos it struck us how sexy we looked in eachother's undies.
Sounds like he appreciates you at least. Well at least it's your panties and not another woman's lol.

**Seyran** · 05-13-2010 02:35 PM

Originally Posted by Hopeless Dork

Yeah, I'm not buying the "feel of them thing" as CW said, they make mens underwear in the same materials.

If its the fact that they are your panties that turn him on, you'd think holding them and touching them (even smelling them, etc,) would do the trick just fine.....

Putting them on....eh, thats leaning on the cross dressing spectrum. He's macho, he's masculine, if he wants to feel womens clothing - wearing a dress would not work for him. Panties... he could get the joy of wearing womens clothes and the rush of no one knowing that he's doing so.

Besides you, of course, now that is. If it doesn't bother you, then you'll be fine. You need to find out for him the extent of his curiousity in wearing your clothes, that way you can decide if you'd be fine with him if his interests expand beyond panties.

Many, many cross-dressers are heterosexual masculine macho men... maybe that is part of the thrill , getting to feel feminine for once... who knows.

My boyfriend does not do this, but I wouldn't really care if my guy liked to do it if it stopped with panties. I wouldn't be comfortable with any more than that. It would NOT turn me on if he was into the panty thing, but it wouldn't be a deal-breaker for me if it stopped with that.

there's nothing wrong with him wearing our panties !! It's when he starts wearing someone elses panties !! My man wears mine he said they feel good as to cotton ! He's got a point !!!