Thread: Share a deep connection with this girl-Need advice.

And for that matter - what would make you desire this woman?

1. She's sticking around in a relationship that isn't working. This either means she's needy, controlling, or weak, and it definitely means she's sneaky and selfish.

2. She's cheating on her boyfriend. Whether or not you think she'd do it to you, do you want to call that type of person your G/F?

Originally Posted by OhThereYouAre

And for that matter - what would make you desire this woman?

1. She's sticking around in a relationship that isn't working. This either means she's needy, controlling, or weak, and it definitely means she's sneaky and selfish.

2. She's cheating on her boyfriend. Whether or not you think she'd do it to you, do you want to call that type of person your G/F?

I appreciate you views.

Here's what i think:- She been thru' 2 previous relations that din work out..so probably does not want to give up on this one, even if he's a jerk...Or she is just confused and finding it hard to accept that there indeed can be a guy like me that understands her unlike any.

I would not say she is cheating...if she doesn fit in there..and maybe was just waiting for someone who understood her, i don see anything wrong with any person if they feel like moving on. Why would anyone wanna spend the rest of their lives with someone they don share much or don have a matching wave length.

Originally Posted by Akkiben

I appreciate you views.

I'm glad.

Originally Posted by Akkiben

Here's what i think:- She been thru' 2 previous relations that din work out..so probably does not want to give up on this one, even if he's a jerk...Or she is just confused and finding it hard to accept that there indeed can be a guy like me that understands her unlike any.

I don't think she's confused. In fact, I think she knows exactly what she's doing. I think you might be confused. To her - you're filling the void of what her current b/f isn't offering her. She's using you. And what's worse is that you are doing for free. Now you are now making excuses for her? There are no excuses for what she is doing to her current boyfriend and what she is doing to you. She's having her cake and eating it too.

Originally Posted by Akkiben

I would not say she is cheating...if she doesn fit in there..and maybe was just waiting for someone who understood her, i don see anything wrong with any person if they feel like moving on. Why would anyone wanna spend the rest of their lives with someone they don share much or don have a matching wave length.

She's cheating. It doesn't matter if you two are sexual or not. In fact, it almost makes it a worse plight for you if you two aren't.

Originally Posted by Hopeless Dork

Sounds like you want to save and rescue her, which will only work if she's the kind of girl that thrives on being saved and rescued. You say she just ended 2 relationships , is now in a 3rd yet spends all her time with you. I'm not trying to crush your hopes... but see the pattern and the writting on the walls and .... go in head first anyway, because well... thats what we do when we're in love.

I just hope that when/if you do manage to save her from herself (as you in your good intention think she's doing) that she doesn't find reasons to cry to, text, lean on someone else to save her from you.

I see your point here. Not like i want to rescue her...more like i feel that we two are good together based on the way we are. Our views match a lot.

I really don't know the exact reasons for her previous break-ups. But she has told me that the way she is...is not acceptable to most guys. She is a very smart and capable girl and i just can't understand as to how she could hook up with someone she does not blend with.

Originally Posted by Miya

I'd just say be careful and cautious. Tread lightly and the other posters raise some valuable points to consider. With OTYA you have a guy's opinion too so consider that. I'm sure since you're as close as you say she already KNOWS how you feel. It's really up to her to make the decision of who she wants to be with. Maybe she is confused but it's solely her choice and if she wants to be with you she HAS to become capable of making it.

I dono what more or what does she see in that guy. I guess after two break-ups she doesn wanna go thru' any more pain and is sticking with this guy...or i've not shown or portrayed my intentions to take our relationship to the next level.