![]() |
![]() |
|
|||||||||||||||||
| |
|
|
|
||||||||||||||||
| |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|||
| |
|
||||||||||||||||||
| |
|
|
|||||||||||||||||
| |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
||||||
| Relationships General Discussion about friends, co-workers, & everyone else in our lives. |
![]() |
|
|
LinkBack | Thread Tools | Display Modes |
|
|
#1 |
|
Junior Member
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: India
Posts: 17
![]() |
First and foremost i'm glad to be on this forum(i'm new here)..read a lot you usefull and helpfull stuff here. Its time for me ask and seek some advice here.
I've known this girl for a lill over 5months now. It din take long for us get to know each other. Pretty soon we were talking all the time and texting or chatting. Basically we talk all the time and no matter what keep in touch through-out the day. Our connection is very strong and our bonding is beyond just physical attraction. Its the comfort level and the kind of talks and understanding about a lot of things, common views and perceptions, IQ level that binds us. She can't get enough of me and vice versa. We do the most craziest and wackiest things when together or even walkin together...does not matter to us as to who is around(public places) We get lost in ourselves basically. She enjoys going on rides with me on the motorbike, loves listening to me play the guitar, movies, jogging..to name a few activities we do together. Here's the Anti-climax now- She has a boyfriend currently and has been out of two break-ups prior to this. I see us doing very 'well together' and am not sure how to convey this to her. We just can't stay apart even for a few hours without talking or messaging one another. She is not doing all to well with this boyfriend, lot of times she is upset and has been crying. That guy seems rather clingy and demanding. I'm sure he does not connect with her on any level. Please let me know how i can take her away from all the misery she is going through and most importantly- tell her that i would like to see us together. Please advice. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
#2 |
|
WH Moderator
|
Your stepping on dangerous territory because your "doing things together" knowing that you like each other but she has a boyfriend..
What if he was to see all those text messages realising how many times you both talk and I imagine he doesn't know that you go out on the bike, walks etc. I understand "friendship" but there's a line to be drawn there when there's another person involved. I'm not having a go, just giving you a thought, because what if she is close like this with another guy and you do win her as your girlfriend how are you going to feel and react? In my opinion, if he doesn't know about you then you have to have an intelligent conversation with her in this regard. As for how? She will leave when she is ready but again, you are ensuring she doesn't have to by being there all the time, if you think about it. The only thing that isn't happening in sex. If you weren't to speak for a day would she miss you? Would she realise how much she wants to be with you instead? Are you giving too much time and therefore, she has no necessity to get out of this relationship? CW
__________________
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul It doesn't happen over night if truth were to be told Like everything in life that's hard to achieve you must believe! Register! | Rules/FAQ | Contact Mod |
|
|
|
|
|
#3 | |||||
|
Junior Member
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: India
Posts: 17
![]() |
Quote:
Quote:
Quote:
Quote:
Quote:
Yes, she would miss me and actually get restless...being apart from me or not even hearing from me is something she is not used to. Realising how much she wants to be with me is what i'm not sure of...cause that jerk is there bugging her all the time. I can't stand that guy. He is like a kid and immature. |
|||||
|
|
|
|
|
#4 |
|
WH Moderator
|
lol. On your last line.
Well, then she has to work this out for herself and gain more feelings for you and less for him, cause it seems that she's comfortable at present, or is she scared of him, or is it that she's used to being with him, how long have they been together?
__________________
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul It doesn't happen over night if truth were to be told Like everything in life that's hard to achieve you must believe! Register! | Rules/FAQ | Contact Mod |
|
|
|
|
|
#5 |
|
Junior Member
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: India
Posts: 17
![]() |
That last line eh? :-D Btw, thanks for your prompt responses. I really felt like talking this out.
She's been with this jerk for 3 yrs, rather known him. Long time to break-off just like that i guess...so called emotional connections...even if he's a kiddo and limp:-D She does display the urge to be with me...when with me she is completely cut-off from the world around..its just me that she is seeing. So close, yet so far i feel at times. |
|
|
|
|
|
#6 |
|
Silver Contributor 100+ Posts
|
I agree with CW, Your stepping on dangerous territory. They've been together for 3 yrs so obviously at one point she saw something in him. Yes feelings can change but comfort doesnt. the only way she'll leave him is if she's will to risk throwing comfort out the window to take a risk.
calling him names or talking bad about him will do nothing but push her away so I really really hope you dont say these things to her. You say you talk all the time but yet you say you give her space. Which is it? It's great you guys have a great connection. You've told her how you feel about her right? then thats about all you can do. the rest is in her hands. In the mean time, go out and have fun. meet other girls. My current bf was so hung up on his ex that he couldnt see what was right in front of him. It took me telling him I wasn't waiting around and starting dating other guys. Within a month he was telling me he was done with his ex and wanted to make us work.
__________________
Krystal
|
|
|
|
|
|
#7 |
|
Gold Contributor 500+ Posts
Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: Cincinnati
Posts: 1,302
![]() |
So take a second and think about this.
If she's cheating on her current B/F.....what do you think the odds are that she'll cheat on you? ![]() I'd say pretty good.
__________________
'If you think you can or you can't, you're probably right..." "It is discouraging how many people are shocked by honesty and how few by deceit..." "People who lack the sense to question Big Lies always end up in deep trouble..." "I don't worry about pointing fingers in the past...i operate under the assumption that every saint has a past and every sinner has a future..." "Build the life you want and then find someone to share it with, someone who fits where you are and where you are going..." |
|
|
|
|
|
#8 | ||
|
Junior Member
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: India
Posts: 17
![]() |
Quote:
We talk all the time as in our interaction is there throughtout the day. Give her space- i mean i not sitting or breathing down her neck all the time. Quote:
I'm not stuck up on her, that's one thing. Yet i don wanna let go what we share, i just hope she sees this soon. I don think i could ever come across a girl who understood or interacted with me like her...she for sure won't meet any other guy like me, she knows that. I just want her to realize all this...and move in with me. At times i get very restless thinking where we headed. I feel of middle of nowhere at times. Is there anything i can do other than sit back and wait for her :-( |
||
|
|
|
|
|
#9 | |
|
Junior Member
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: India
Posts: 17
![]() |
Quote:
About the comfort factor- I feel she is more comfortable with me, there is nothing that we don talk bout. I'm very communicative, unlike most guys. I'm very different that way..even when it comes to understanding a girl. She knows this all to well..hence our strong connection. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
#10 | |
|
Junior Member
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: India
Posts: 17
![]() |
Quote:
This guy is an introvert and narrow minded. She is a lot like more broad minded, knowledgeable and outspoken- in other words a lot like me she is:-) Hence i donno wat the heck is she doing with that guy. |
|
|
|
|
![]() |
| Bookmarks |
| Thread Tools | |
| Display Modes | |
|
|
Similar Threads
|
||||
| Thread | Thread Starter | Forum | Replies | Last Post |
| No connection anymore.. | Munchkin | Husband/Fiance | 44 | 10-11-2009 01:28 PM |
| Girl Advice Needed - Is she into me? | MrDarcy | Dating | 4 | 07-30-2009 01:15 PM |
| Oral Sex Advice Deep Throat help Please | Ahryin | Sex | 17 | 07-30-2009 11:05 AM |
| All bottled up and need to vent and share with hopes of some solutions/advice! | meaculpa | Sex | 8 | 02-06-2009 07:52 AM |
| Breast Cancer: The Genetic Connection | imported_womens-health | Cancer | 0 | 05-13-2006 03:25 PM |