vboy123

I was watching this movie. Heck I've watched too many movies of this type and have met one or two people in real life who had faced this.

The guy is rich successful guy, great career, friends and hot girl friend. He even proposes to his girl and she says yes. She tell things like she loves him. The girl is a stunning 10. They are getting ready for their wedding. All of sudden he gets into an accident and loses his limp. Every thing goes terrible. He loses his job and the one person he needs the most in his life-his soon to be wife tells him "I am sorry, we can't be together any more, I have a career to live up to and I want you to not call me any more"

Now in this forum every time guys keep saying that as men we must understand women better and women will love us for that. But I ask you from the above scenario, don't you think that woman is a who just wanted money and support from the guy and faked her love for him. I don't think that women deserve to be given any respect for that type of behaviour. And I definitely do not think its the Man's fault. If it was the Man's fault over here, then the woman would not be saying things like she loves him. The man did everything to be with her and she herself says she loves him. And now when he loses it all, she can't be with him. That's no fair at all. This makes me wonder how can a man fall in love completely when women turn their back on them when they need women the most.

I just have a strong feeling about this, I've never had to face it in real life but I don't know if I can fall for a woman when I have to think about all these dating tactics on keeping women interested in me. The whole falling in love feeling fades away when your thinking what is the best way to maintain her attraction for you. I think as men there is a part in us that want to give away our so called neediness or wussy side and that will happen eventually when in a long relationship with the woman. In this case the woman finally decides to either leave us or accept us for our wussy ways.

WildChild

You do know that movies aren't real life don't you?
Yes there are some real life situations when this type of thing happens, not just to men. It happens just as often to women, maybe more often.
Looking from the outside you can't see everything that goes on either. Over and over here we hear about relationships that onlookers might say look very good and yet in reality there is abuse and mistreatment going on all the time/
I saw my now ex through several years of unemployment and host of health disasters; one after another. I cashed out my retirement account, used up savings, sold everything I had that had any value, to help us survive. He treated my kids bady and me with total disregard. Even to the point that when I was stranded on the road side out in the country in the middle of the night, he refused to to come get me. I have no doubt that if you heard him tell his story I would come out as a horrible person. He has accused me of taking large sums of money from him - where this fantasy money was supposed to come from is a mystery since he was unemployed over half the time we were married but he firmly convinvced in his own mind.

You need to keep in mind that A) things aren't always as they seem B) movies are fantasy - even ones based on a true story have been greatly altered C) it is a waste of energy to get worked up over things that haven't happened to you D)Energy flows where you put your attention.

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