Thread: Why do we accept less than what we should

Originally Posted by Ahryin

This is the exact issue and backward thinking I want to assist with. For one XMrs I'm here to tell you that you are precious, intelligent, and breathtaking! Mind you I'm a girl so imagine what the guys must think. Most of my females friends think the same way. The thing is there are guys out there that can smell that type of thinking and prey on it.
Not saying all guys are bad, not at all but oh my gosh there are soooo many. You have to first believe in you, believe in the possibilites, and believe in your selfworth.
XMrs I have read many a post by you so I know you have a great mind and some great opins that alone lets me know you are NO fool! Some times its best to spend some time alone to gather your thoughts, plan your next move and cherish yourself. I'm not sure if i'm making sense but if your don't value yourself how can you expect others to?

Thank you but yes... You are a girl. We are more sensitive and see things in each other that men don't so really... I can only imagine what men think, lol. How is that for backwards?

That's exactly it... I know that I have to value myself before anyone else will and I find that so hard. I try, I really do but it's not easy. I don't see any reason to value myself.

The other day I was standing in the mirror and all I could think was, "I'm not good enough for Marty (my ex) and that he could do so much better than me. He could find someone prettier and just on and on." The negative thoughts were so easy to come up with that actually, I didn't have to come up with them. They just came to me. It really made me hate myself.

I don't know why I have that thinking pattern. I can't wait to get back to my counselor in November. I really need help with a lot of things and this is one of them.

It doesn't matter how many times someone says I'm beautiful, smart, cute, adorable, funny, sexy... It doesn't change the way I see myself.

It doesn't matter how many times someone says I'm beautiful, smart, cute, adorable, funny, sexy... It doesn't change the way I see myself

then i'm going to quit banging my head against the wall..and for the record i NEVER said you were adorable

For the record, you weren't even in my line of thought when I posted this. I'm sure somewhere you have agreed that I am adorable though. Too bad I don't save all of our PM's. I could prove it then. Oh well... I know you think I'm adorable among other things.

dream on

I don't have to dream... You like me. Everyone knows this. You make it all too obvious to the readers and whoever can see my page (which as far as I know are just friends) so... Try taking it back now!

i plead the fifth