shanesgal

hi i have recently started an affair with a married man aged 46 and im in my early 20's. we often meet in car parks and his hotel room for sex. sometimes when we are in public i feel a bit dirty knowing he is older but every time i try to finish it i end up going back to him not sure what to do?
i was wondering if anyone else has been in that situation

geedee

How do you feel when you're alone together..... do you still feel dirty? What does this relationship do for you? Is it just sex for you? Is it just sex for him?

OhThereYouAre

What is it about this man that attracts you?

You aren't going to get much attention, or sexual gratification from a man who has a wife and children.

You are setting yourself up for a great deal of pain, not to mention the other members of his family.

You need to end this.

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Tex

What OTYA said. Why keep going back to the man?

WildChild

His age is immaterial.
His marriage isn't.
You don't need this.
His wife doesn't need this.
His kids don't need this.
He needs to deal whatever issues are in his marriage.
End it.

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shanesgal

i dont feel dirty with him i suppose its just imaginign other peoples opinions of it
this relationship is just sex and thats it every weekend after his week away in scotland working he goes back to his wife

shanesgal

you are all rite and i totally agree
its just difficult to end it

PJhavinfunagain

Imagine how it would be if you found out your dad was doing this with a friend. How would you feel? It is much easier to end it now than to suffer all the heartache and pain this will cause not only you but him. I would personally rather be alone than deal with this. Yes I know being alone sucks at times. I was single till I turned 30. Make yourself happy, be proud of who you are and you will attract the same.

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CHANDLERS WISH

I think, you "don't" feel dirty out of sight because it's sex and obviously in front of people you think people see " Father & Daughter", reality that's the case anyway..

What your not seeing though is "car park & hotel".. then he's gone back to the wife, in a bed, making love with her... then back to you, "car park & hotel" sex, he sees you as the dirtly little girl that his wife isn't.

If you can get that around your head, you will feel discusting to allow him to treat you that way without respect and just as a piece of meat.

How easy is it for them to find a vulnerable girl or a girl who is letting go a little of a wild side, only to laugh after he leaves of how lucky he is whilst he washes himself off all of you, as you mean nothing and ensuring she doesn't know.

Sounds horrible doesn't it.

CW

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violets

I can understand your situation.. well kinda! Im 22 and im seeing a mad 8 years my senior (not to bad i know) however he has a girlfriend and a child. I see him daily as we work close by. We always share a kiss and a cuddle and its going on a couple of months however we have actually only slept together twice.. (due to timing, oppoutunties ect).
I have always benn friends with him and always been attracted to him and he makes me feel so good about myself. I tell myself everyday I am going to end it because so many people could get hurt by our relationship but I just cant bring myself to because everytime I see him he just brightens up my day. Im sorry I cant give you advice but I thought Id share my story to let you know you are not alone.