happy ending

that is so true, as ricki lake once said - if he'll do it for you, he'll do it too you!

Texasred

Interesting thread...

AlleyWay

Your situation is backwards usually it's the girl who's madly in love and wants the man to leave his wife. By him telling you who not to talk to or go out on a date with it ridiculous you can't have your cake and eat it too. You may have to take a step back from the situation. It's easy to say hey stop what your doing it's not right but you can't control who you fall in love with. But your situation may turn into him doing something crazy or you getting emotionally hurt love does that to you. Good Luck.

kailua

I am not one to judge another nor their feelings. But what I can comment on is that in my first marriage this happened, the only difference was we had been married much longer and had 3 young children at the time. After finding out, as much as he was not planning on me finding out, nor leaving me, it was betrayal, in many different aspects. How can someone trust the one they committed themselves to if they are able to do this. The end result, we are now divorced, my children will not have their parents together again. I would of rather my ex-husband come to me, let me know our marriage was over for him, as much as the pain would of been hard, it certainly would not have been as hard as learning of the betrayal. Nothing will ever be a secret forever, at some point it will come out, and how do you think his wife is going to feel. As much as he is totally a fault for this, you are just as much at fault knowing that he is married. Do you want to be the woman who helps to break up another woman's marriage. If I were you, I would not be able to live with this. Would it not be nice to have a man that is yours and yours only, no sneaking around, no sharing, no worries. I cannot understand how one woman can do this to another.
My ex-husband moved in with the woman he was having an affair with. Then she realized that what comes around goes around, he did the same to her. After the thrill and what they were doing was gone, so was the excitement and everyone paid the price.
What is the real reason you are seeing a married man? Would you like your future "love of your life" to cheat on you? You have the control to continue or stop this

caterpillar79

Think about it this way: if he has done this to his wife - the woman he used to love, the one he thought he couldn't live without; he could do it to any woman he gets involved with. It is like a disease - it needs a cure. Only he can figure it out.

You will enjoy it now, but once you're over that "sparky" phase, you'll begin to wonder if his eyes nor heart are still set for you. We can never tell how it would be in the future. But what you do now, will greatly affect it.

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