Thread: When is enough, enough?

After reading all the posts I've missed here, I can say that he's not going to change these actions, unfortunately .

That guy Drew that I've mentioned to you? He got to be the EXACT same way. Near the end of it, we'd only seen each other 3 times in the previous year.... and he only lived like 40 minutes away from me, tops. He just never wanted to be the one making the trip out, it always had to be me and I hated that.

The thing that reminded me of him is that every single time I tried to have a SERIOUS conversation with him, he would have none of it. I remember sending him a huge e-mail (it was the only thing I had the balls to do back then), pouring my heart out to him, saying maybe it was best that we just moved on and stopped the whole merry-go-round thing. All he responded with was a one-sentence sexual remark, thinking it would just charm me right back into doing what we had been doing. He always, always, ALWAYS avoided that subject. It was like he didn't want to be with me anymore, but at the same time didn't want to have one less option by me leaving.

Eventually I had to just stop. I erased his contact info, blocked him on IM and just stopped because I knew I was just doing it to myself and he didn't care anymore. It was absolutely heartbreaking because I was crazy about that guy, but I knew I deserved better. And everyone I knew said the same thing and started hating him for how he was treating me. I was pretty much trying to convince him that he wanted to be with me, but there's no way to do that if their mind is made up. I cared a lot about him but it was the best thing. And after reading your posts on Jared, it really is best to just let it be. Especially when you care so much for Marty and want to make that work. Jared is just a distraction at this point.

What you said made so much sense glitter. Sometimes we try to WILL them into caring, if someone doesn't care , they don't care. Because we care so much we hope that makes a difference... but if someone is 'no into it' they're not.

To badger a guy for not calling, whats the point... if they wanted to call -- nothing would stop them. If they wanted to see you, they'd be there right now. We can live in denial and hope and wishing we love someone enough for the both of us type deal... but its never enough... is it?

Sometimes knowing that you have someone out there, even their flaky, could give a beep less and all, feels better than the unknown... but who are we really kidding with that?

Your post, xmrs... when is enough enough? I think the moment your brain has posed that question... its answer is already there.

What a lucky chap he is. He has found an incredibly beautiful girl....one with so much heart and soul...one with so much love to give.....but unfortunately, one that doesn't value herself enough to accept that she deserves better than to be someones phone girlfriend, good for only sex now and then. So really he has his cake and eats it too, right?

He limits closeness. Why? Maybe because he's non commital? Maybe because he leads a double life? Maybe because he fears a relationship will tie him down? For whatever his reason, it is not what you want. Not what makes you happy.

But you stay...and you wait...hoping it will change. But it hasn't...so what makes you think it will?

You are beautiful. Like it or not. Admit it or not. You are beautiful inside and out....and eventually you must stop cheating yourself of what you truly deserve.

TODAY: Wednesday, November 11th, 2009.

ENOUGH BECAME ENOUGH!

DONE.