is it ok

jamesm28 · 11-02-2009, 09:41 PM

Heres my question. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years.She has alot of guy friends and some that she did have relations with.Ive never really had a problem with that.Now she had a call from a (guy friend) the other day that seemed to be wanting something more that night she has been sexual with this person many years ago but is one of her good friends now is this ok to have guy friends that may want a little more than just being friends because she says i would never do that.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 11-02-2009, 09:45 PM

I would say he was "drunk" and the fact that you know is because she told you correct?

You have to trust your partner.. If she told you, and you know she won't cheat on you, then trust her in that.. She's letting you know what's going on and that's a real good thing.

CW

**Mes_T** · 11-02-2009, 09:47 PM

It depends on what kind of relationship you want. If you don't want an "open" relationship, then it is NOT okay for her to have guy friends who want more!

My boyfriend has tons of female friends, and they haven't suggested anything like that yet, but I'm still uncomfortable with it. If his friends started asking him for something more, knowing full well he had a girlfriend, I'd probably have to leave him, to be honest. :-/

jamesm28 · 11-02-2009, 09:48 PM

the one thing i did leave out is that she had told me but in order for her to tell me possibly of what they wanted took awhile

**Mes_T** · 11-02-2009, 09:50 PM

On second thought, I think you should be okay as long as SHE makes it abundantly CLEAR to her guy "friend" that she's in a relationship that needs to be respected and that his suggestions are completely inappropriate. I've had to do that with one of MY guy friends and it turned out fine.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 11-02-2009, 09:52 PM

Okay, how about you tell us the story as it un-folded.

Your now suggesting that you could have "found out?", and so she spilled? You questioned her?

It would be easier to give you our opinions if you give us a little more factual information so perhaps tell us how it all occured..

CW

11-02-2009, 09:41 PM	#1
jamesm28 Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 2	is it ok Heres my question. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years.She has alot of guy friends and some that she did have relations with.Ive never really had a problem with that.Now she had a call from a (guy friend) the other day that seemed to be wanting something more that night she has been sexual with this person many years ago but is one of her good friends now is this ok to have guy friends that may want a little more than just being friends because she says i would never do that.

11-02-2009, 09:45 PM	#2
CHANDLERS WISH WH Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Australia Posts: 9,963 Blog Entries: 7	I would say he was "drunk" and the fact that you know is because she told you correct? You have to trust your partner.. If she told you, and you know she won't cheat on you, then trust her in that.. She's letting you know what's going on and that's a real good thing. CW __________________ Do we not realise that in order to find a soul It doesn't happen over night if truth were to be told Like everything in life that's hard to achieve you must believe! Register! \| Rules/FAQ \| Contact Mod

11-02-2009, 09:48 PM	#4
jamesm28 Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 2	well the one thing i did leave out is that she had told me but in order for her to tell me possibly of what they wanted took awhile

11-02-2009, 09:52 PM	#6
CHANDLERS WISH WH Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Australia Posts: 9,963 Blog Entries: 7	Okay, how about you tell us the story as it un-folded. Your now suggesting that you could have "found out?", and so she spilled? You questioned her? It would be easier to give you our opinions if you give us a little more factual information so perhaps tell us how it all occured.. CW __________________ Do we not realise that in order to find a soul It doesn't happen over night if truth were to be told Like everything in life that's hard to achieve you must believe! Register! \| Rules/FAQ \| Contact Mod

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11-02-2009, 09:47 PM	#3
Mes_T Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 202	It depends on what kind of relationship you want. If you don't want an "open" relationship, then it is NOT okay for her to have guy friends who want more! My boyfriend has tons of female friends, and they haven't suggested anything like that yet, but I'm still uncomfortable with it. If his friends started asking him for something more, knowing full well he had a girlfriend, I'd probably have to leave him, to be honest. :-/

11-02-2009, 09:50 PM	#5
Mes_T Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 202	On second thought, I think you should be okay as long as SHE makes it abundantly CLEAR to her guy "friend" that she's in a relationship that needs to be respected and that his suggestions are completely inappropriate. I've had to do that with one of MY guy friends and it turned out fine.