what to do

ashraf · 11-05-2009, 01:30 AM

My boyfriend and I are together six months or less ;a month ago he ask me to mary him ,I said no because of a lot of reasons .First all am a single mother and his single never married ;second ,I thougth is too soon .Now he told me that he gonna married his ex because she came to him and said is ready when his ready ;am in love with him,what to do ?

**Mes_T** · 11-05-2009, 01:31 AM

Okay. Any guy who asks you to marry him and then immediately goes off and asks someone ELSE when you said no... is obviously not someone who wants to stay with you, and is not someone you should be pursuing at this point.

It's over.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 11-05-2009, 01:41 AM

You have a right to say no after 6 months, how can you judge in such short time? Married is/should be "forever" and I think he is playing games ..

He's in-secure...

Tell him you love him (if you do) and to stop playing games and if all he is after is marriage then he doesn't love you enough...

See what he says.

CW

blowfish · 11-05-2009, 04:50 AM

say good by.....his no good for you, find other man and someday u will glad u leave him

**KMonte85** · 11-05-2009, 07:36 AM

sounds like this man is just desperate for a wife!

Run, run away fast. Don't look back!

**OhThereYouAre** · 11-05-2009, 07:50 AM

LOL. Good for you.

Run.

Don't look back.

moonisis · 11-05-2009, 04:45 PM

I doubt his ex came to him at all. That's a lie to get you to do what he wants. He threw that in there to get you jealous that another woman might have him and that you won't ever get the chance again to marry him. That's just flat out BS. I got that stuff all the time from my BF and it's flat out manipulation. don't fall for it. Stand your ground. If you said no you said NO. And I think 6 months is too soon imo

**tritonalum07** · 11-05-2009, 08:03 PM

I agree with Moon. I've known so many manipulative men AND women who do things like this. They inject the idea that they're out with someone else or try to create mystery around someone of the opposite sex to try and trick you into whatever it is they want you to do. That alone would be enough for me to leave someone.

11-05-2009, 01:30 AM	#1
ashraf Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 1	what to do My boyfriend and I are together six months or less ;a month ago he ask me to mary him ,I said no because of a lot of reasons .First all am a single mother and his single never married ;second ,I thougth is too soon .Now he told me that he gonna married his ex because she came to him and said is ready when his ready ;am in love with him,what to do ?

11-05-2009, 01:41 AM	#3
CHANDLERS WISH WH Moderator Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Australia Posts: 9,905 Blog Entries: 7	You have a right to say no after 6 months, how can you judge in such short time? Married is/should be "forever" and I think he is playing games .. He's in-secure... Tell him you love him (if you do) and to stop playing games and if all he is after is marriage then he doesn't love you enough... See what he says. CW __________________ Do we not realise that in order to find a soul It doesn't happen over night if truth were to be told Like everything in life that's hard to achieve you must believe! Register! \| Rules/FAQ \| Contact Mod

11-05-2009, 07:36 AM	#5
KMonte85 Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Southeastern WI Posts: 148	sounds like this man is just desperate for a wife! Run, run away fast. Don't look back! __________________ When choosing between two evils, I always like to try the one I've never tried before.

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OhThereYouAre Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Cincinnati Posts: 1,302	LOL. Good for you. Run. Don't look back. __________________ 'If you think you can or you can't, you're probably right..." "It is discouraging how many people are shocked by honesty and how few by deceit..." "People who lack the sense to question Big Lies always end up in deep trouble..." "I don't worry about pointing fingers in the past...i operate under the assumption that every saint has a past and every sinner has a future..." "Build the life you want and then find someone to share it with, someone who fits where you are and where you are going..."

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11-05-2009, 01:31 AM	#2
Mes_T Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 202	Okay. Any guy who asks you to marry him and then immediately goes off and asks someone ELSE when you said no... is obviously not someone who wants to stay with you, and is not someone you should be pursuing at this point. It's over.

11-05-2009, 04:50 AM	#4
blowfish Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 13	say good by.....his no good for you, find other man and someday u will glad u leave him

11-05-2009, 04:45 PM	#7
moonisis Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: pennsylvania Posts: 28	I doubt his ex came to him at all. That's a lie to get you to do what he wants. He threw that in there to get you jealous that another woman might have him and that you won't ever get the chance again to marry him. That's just flat out BS. I got that stuff all the time from my BF and it's flat out manipulation. don't fall for it. Stand your ground. If you said no you said NO. And I think 6 months is too soon imo

11-05-2009, 08:03 PM	#8
tritonalum07 VIP Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Southern CA Posts: 35	I agree with Moon. I've known so many manipulative men AND women who do things like this. They inject the idea that they're out with someone else or try to create mystery around someone of the opposite sex to try and trick you into whatever it is they want you to do. That alone would be enough for me to leave someone.