Thread: How do I stop thinking about him?

I also have my share of sedentary things. I go to a bookstore and spend an average of 2 hours there, just browsing/reading books. And mind you, I really stay in a corner, one wouldn't think that a person stays there to read.

I literally changed almost all stuff that I could: moved places, changed even my dining set, my hair color/cut. I also corrected my eating habits, the way I relate to people - more smiles even with strangers. (Fake it till you make it).

I also joined a gardening club, a choir, a belly dancing studio amongst others. Weird, huh?

Originally Posted by caterpillar79

I also have my share of sedentary things. I go to a bookstore and spend an average of 2 hours there, just browsing/reading books. And mind you, I really stay in a corner, one wouldn't think that a person stays there to read.

I literally changed almost all stuff that I could: moved places, changed even my dining set, my hair color/cut. I also corrected my eating habits, the way I relate to people - more smiles even with strangers. (Fake it till you make it).

I also joined a gardening club, a choir, a belly dancing studio amongst others. Weird, huh?

No, I wouldn't say weird. Unless you have an interest in mind, which I don't, it is hard to even search a club for it. That is the problem I'm running into. But I did see some women only clubs. I'm thinking maybe I might at least join a few of those.

Yeah, try that...or maybe volunteer in a humanitarian group - that should help you feel useful, needed and appreciated.

When I joined the gardening (bonsai) club, I thought I would meet women - nope! I met men instead. Funny! and then the choir - mostly women in their 40's who cared about me...belly dancing studio - I thought of women my age - still mostly older. But I found refuge in them, at the same time learning the skill.

I might try to sign-up for a cooking class or maybe Spanish Ed., or knitting/crafters group. What say you?

Believe it or not, even cooking is a sore subject. I was trying to learn how to cook better when I started to go out with him. And I also found out from a friend that my ex is in the local cooking club. I'll pass on cooking. I was never one good at crafts.

The women clubs are restricted to women only, so no men there. But if I find a hobby, then who knows. Maybe something I like to try will come to mind. Thanks for trying.

You are who you want to be. Just take each day as it goes. Be patient to yourself. This forum is my refuge. Just banter with us more - what else can I say?

I am happy that you are open to try writing a journal though. It is therapeutic. I am about ready to burn mine soon.

I'm looking forward to the day that I can burn mine. Until then maybe it will help me.