Thread: Going through a difficult breakup :'(

Sexybabe: have you started going out for activities with friends, including guy friends, yet? It just takes longer to move on if you keep on making yourself a memorial to what your ex didn't want. Don't worry about forgetting him, he should always be there, hopefully remembering when you and he had good times. Just start having good times and fun times with friends and family. Put the memories of him in their proper place. You cannot go back, so you shouldn't spend a lot of your time wishing for what might have been. That being said, allow yourself a good cry about it from time to time

JNS, yes ive been going out a lot with friends - the same people I neglected for years when I was still "too busy" with my ex and our activity (scuba diving). So I stopped diving and picked up running a few months ago. At least there's nothing in running that reminds me of him. When I'm with my friends, I really have a grand time. I don't really cry anymore. Sometimes, I'd tear up when I remember a good time we spent together, or when I miss diving, or when I start imagining him loving this new girl in his life (who happens to be only 21 years old. He's 38. Im 29. So yeah, he's dating a kid).

Whether he is on the rebound or not, it is not longer for you to worry about. Purge all things about him. Cut all means of communication. Throw away all mementos of him. clean your place and rid everything that reminds you of him. Change your wardrobe, your hairstyle, even your kitchen ware if you have to. Keep looking ahead. Don't falter. You are a precious gem. Tell your self in front of the mirror: "It's his loss, not mine"

We don't communicate at all, and I feel it's best to keep it this way. I am ready to meet new people and I just want to dedicate more time to my running. It makes me feel good about myself. And people notice how sexier I am now

I appreciate your thoughts, thank you so much for the comment. About him realizing now who he loves more, or who he really wants, I don't even wanna go there. I don't wish that his relationship would fail. But I don't want to be a hypocrite either by saying that I am happy for him. I don't wish him anything. It's his life, he's responsible for it. I don't hate him. I just don't want to have any more emotions for him. Staying away from him helped me a lot, and I want it to stay this way for now.