Thread: What to do when the ex comes into the picture

I have honestly never felt so comfused in my life.... I know i have to move on now... I dont feel like i have the power anymore.... i have been speaking to him, i can still see right through him. I left him a very long message for closure for me. I had to do it in writing so he could ponder on my words.

"You have no idea how peeved your going to be when the next guy enters my life"

Im counting on that lol for my sanity

Honestly, the longer you drag it out between the two of you, even if your just taking jabs at him to make him feel some of the hurt he gave you, the longer your gonna be stuck with "him" in your life.

As others have suggested, it may be best to really just get out of his orbit completely. Even though it feels that your tormenting him now, it's still "poisoning" you in the long run.

I am so sorry Angel

But the brightside is you know his true nature now, and not after being married and having 2.5 kids with him. You have nothing binding you to this man... you can walk away and not look back.

Start letting go now, so that you can heal and be open to the right man. And in order to do that you will have to let go of him. Don't let him be the crummy ex getting more of your attention than anyone new you might let in your life (there is no rush for that though).

It probably feels good to an extent to be able to make him feel bad with your words... but honestly sweetie, if he had it in him to feel bad over doing wrong he wouldn't have done wrong in the first place. In my opinion you are wasting breath, energy and moments of your precious time.

He was hurt by someone else , He has now hurt you, He will probably hurt the girl you caught him with.... He's toxic. You were already debating leaving him before this happened so I know it must be all the more painful that you decided to stick it out for a few more months and then he pulls this.

You want to know what the very best revenge is? Moving on with your life. There will be tears, sleepless nights, tummy aches, sad songs, tubs of icecream, a friends shoulder, days of blaming yourself for something you shoulder no blame for, days of missing him, days you want to call him (but don't you dare!)... but the days will go by... and the more of them the pass the less the memory of him will sting until one day very soon it won't sting at all... no more than tommy that pulled your hair in 2nd grade and made you cry.

Keep busy. Keep busy. Keep busy. Idle hands will make time pass slow, and give you too much of it to think of him. You are one tough cookie and you are going to be okay... and end up with someone that wouldn't ever dream of doing something like this to you... and you will thank your lucky stars that you have him and be so glad this chapter here closed.