Thread: pregnancy, abortion, boyfriend leaving me. Toughest moment in my life

I think "take a step back" means he doesn't want to continue what you had. He realizes he could have made a mistake. To tell you the truth it doesn't sound like you were being responsible enough. I mean, you got pregnant but before starting a relationship with someone else you should have made sure everything was ok. Like getting a checkup for stds, pregnancy test, etc. You should always do that before you just jumping into something new. That way you avoid problems like the one you have now. I"m not trying to be harsh, its just the truth, sorry.

I know were your coming from, this is kinda what happened to me. Last year (i was 15) i was totally in love with this boy. I had been going out with him for at least 10 months, how ever when we broke up with eachother (he started to be really arsy with me). I found out i was pregnant not long after, i did try to tell him but he didn't wana know. His friend told me that he said if i kept it he would change his id, and he wouldn't help me out at all. This broke my heart even more as i got attached to my baby, when telling my mom she made me get a abortion (which i know was the right thing to do,even though i had secretly fell in love with my baby) After having the abortion is suffered from depression and went off the rails, i shut all my emoctions out and everyone elses too. Thinking about it now it was such a selfish thing to do, and i regreat it. I still cry to this day about the abortion. I wouldnt do it again. I can understand were your coming from, things will get better in time trust me x Good Luck

Youve made the right choice hun, good on ya youve put your foot down so keep it down hun!

Originally Posted by SEXXYJ

I think "take a step back" means he doesn't want to continue what you had. He realizes he could have made a mistake. To tell you the truth it doesn't sound like you were being responsible enough. I mean, you got pregnant but before starting a relationship with someone else you should have made sure everything was ok. Like getting a checkup for stds, pregnancy test, etc. You should always do that before you just jumping into something new. That way you avoid problems like the one you have now. I"m not trying to be harsh, its just the truth, sorry.

I appreciate the honesty. The previous relationship wasnt really a relationship it was more like a fling. When I met my new bf I wanted to take things slow with him & we did. We never had sex and I actually wanted to keep it that way for a while. We connected in an emotional level and that definitely brought us closer. But I do agree with you. I dont feel like I need to be with him nor any man right now. It just sucks that it turned out this way, thats all.

Originally Posted by ScaredandExcited

Youve made the right choice hun, good on ya youve put your foot down so keep it down hun!

Thank you. I really appreciate that. Its not easy but I will definitely keep my foot down

Last update on this...
I wrote him a letter, letting him know exactly how I feel. I also said in the letter that I made a decision that was very difficult for me but that Im doing ok thank God (Im assuming he knows Im talking about the abortion, I didnt want to write that in an email) I let him know that I still wanted him in my life and that I understand why he felt the need to "take a step back" and so on...
He texted me after he read it and said hes been very busy and he will contact me soon so we can talk about it. Its been a couple days and no call, no email, nothing.

Im completely fine though because it shows me how much I really meant to him. Its over in my heart. I dont want to be with a man like that anyway. He cant even take a minute to call me and ask if Im ok. He knows very well that making that decision would be hard on me and life changing but he could care less. Thats what I wanted to see for my closure. I dont need a person like him in my life.
Im happy I found out early into the relationship