Why didn't my ex respond to my email? :(

**sexybabe** · 01-11-2010 12:23 PM

Really, you should not even concern yourself with this

I know I shouldn't. But that's the reason I'm letting it all out here. I don't want to show my friends that I'm totally affected by this because we have so many common friends and chances are, word will reach him that I am still affected or bitter about the breakup.

I know I shouldn't be concerned, but how I feel when I learned about his spending is the same as how I feel about the whole breakup. I know I should stop crying over this guy who dumped me, yet I just can't stop hurting. My mind tells me it's wrong, but how do you tell your heart to stop feeling the hurt? It's true what they say... you can close your eyes to the things you do not want to see, but you cannot close your heart to the things you don't want to feel.

**sexybabe** · 01-11-2010 12:27 PM

If someone engages you in a conversation say you don't want to know. THe more you find out the more you wonder and the more you get hurt.

I heard everything (and actually, was curious to hear everything) before I could even stop this person from talking. But yeah, I told her I'm not concerned, he can live his life the way he wants, and can do whatever he wants with his money. I tried to be appear cool. I never said anything like 'i dont want to know' because that will signify that I am hurting that's why i dont want to hear anything more...

**KMonte85** · 01-11-2010 12:35 PM

There is nothing wrong with being hurt over a breakup, especially if you were not the one that wanted to end things. But it is nearly impossible to heal when you keep punishing yourself with these thoughts about what he's doing and why, what he's thinking, etc...

You need to retrain yourself to stop thinking about him all the time. You have to focus on yourself and start thinking about how you can begin to heal and feel better. Maybe talk to some friends that are not mutual friends with your ex! It helps to get the feelings out to someone so you don't have to play off you're fine all the time

As for your mutual friends, there is nothing wrong with telling them you don't want to hear about what he's up to. If they really are your friends, they probably already know that you are still hurt. If they don't, it is not such a bad thing that they do. That is what friends are for, to be your support system. And if the ex finds out you are still hurt? So what - you told him you're at peace with what happened and don't hate him. That does not mean that you can't still be healing over the break up!

**sexybabe** · 01-12-2010 11:00 AM

You need to retrain yourself to stop thinking about him all the time. You have to focus on yourself and start thinking about how you can begin to heal and feel better.

And if the ex finds out you are still hurt? So what - you told him you're at peace with what happened and don't hate him. That does not mean that you can't still be healing over the break up!

I just couldn't help but wonder why he's spending on all those things after we broke up. I'm now resolved to stop wondering why. It won't make any difference, anyway.

I told him in that email that I'm generally doing ok but still at the process of healing. But what's important is that I was able to let him know that I have no hard feelings over what happened.

Thank you for your help.. I appreciate it.

**Futureboy** · 01-12-2010 12:33 PM

Originally Posted by sexybabe

I just couldn't help but wonder why he's spending on all those things after we broke up. I'm now resolved to stop wondering why. It won't make any difference, anyway.

I told him in that email that I'm generally doing ok but still at the process of healing. But what's important is that I was able to let him know that I have no hard feelings over what happened.

Thank you for your help.. I appreciate it.

Human nature makes you wonder just try not too

You could be 2 years down the line still wondering.

You are in transition from 'Endings' to 'New Beginings' it's ok your the SEXYBABE and something new and interesting (not just men) is just round the corner. Go on have a look I dare you.

Fb

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