My SO the weekend the way we left it, the question at hand

**GlitterAndStuds** · 01-12-2010 08:59 AM

It's really a tough call. You said that he didn't come right out and TELL you he doesn't love you, that you just know it. But you also said your gut is telling you that he does and just doesn't know how to say it. Why do you think he doesn't?

Either way, I think it's more along the lines of just being scared to say he does. Actions do speak louder than words, yes, but most guys are different in that way. They tend to think "Oh, well last time I told a woman I loved her she did this, that and the other thing to screw me over"... not with all of them, but it's a common mentality. For men and women. Some guys just don't like to be emotional and just can't easily say things like that, so they do them instead.

I agree with a lot of things that Tex said. Being happy is very important. If he makes you THAT happy, then try to stick it out for a while. I'm a firm believer in doing things and avoiding regret later. And I have a feeling that, regardless of how it turns out, if you walk away, you'll regret not seeing what happens.

**Chantalemma** · 01-14-2010 05:06 AM

OK well, I have my opinion on this. I have to say.. I liked this guys when I was younger. I fell in love with him. I was young but man did I love this guy. We dated nothing ever happened. He is still in my life as a friend. His mom and mine are best friends. Everytime I see him. my heart goes pitter patter. I hold his daughter. I think this could of been mine. Do I love him? NO> I am completely in love wiht my bf. I think I love evertyhign about him, but I am not in love with him. There is a difference. You know how you love your parents, but you are not in love with them. It could be like this....But than again I had this deep conversation with my father one day. Has a hard life... blah blah blah. Was hurt with his first wife. Seperated with my mother now... has a new grilfriend every week. He told me once that he did love before. But he doesn't love the same anymore. He can't get attached like he used too. He said it hurts to much to love and than let go. So now he loves the person he is with, but he never falls in love with them. He said his heart won't take it anymore. I think it might be similar to your story here. I trully think he loves you, but it is hard for him to admitt it. He loves in his own way. Have you asked him... Can you see your life without me? Do you want your life without me? Is there a place in the near future with me? The truth always hurt. I trully beleive he does love you. It is just his way of loving you that he is unsure.

Well, that is my thoughts... sorry abotu the rambling on.... and on...

**Ahryin** · 01-14-2010 07:41 AM

There was no rambling and it does make sense. I have a lot to think about, a lot to consider. I'm digging deep right now and talking to myself the way I would you guys..lol It hurts but its the truth...then again dont they say the truth hurts?

**WildChild** · 01-14-2010 08:25 AM

But sweet, there are many truths. His don't have to be yours.

**Ahryin** · 01-14-2010 09:14 AM

You are right it doesn't have to be my truth or my accepted truth however it doesn't stop it from being true. Ok I just confused myself....lol the bottom line is at the end of the day its my choice to stick by his side and accept his way of addressing things. In his case he backs off gets ahold of himself and reenters the situation. Me I address things head on and live with my emotions vs ignoring them. With his actions I like to recon he rather ignore them.

**Ahryin** · 01-14-2010 09:35 AM

Its like I just woke up this morning thinking to myself when he reappears he reappers. We got back sunday and I have spoken to him a total of 3 times when normally I would have spoken to him through text all day every day and at least one call in he morning and one call in the evening...aka drastic change. I know he is working out again and his job is taxing at times which is my reasoning why he hasn't not spoken to me. Before the trip he wasn't on his regular workout schedule. At least thats my minds excuse...lol However what will be will be...so I will keep everyone updated *not saying I don't miss him because I do

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